Your Turn: “How Long Should I Wait For a Proposal”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter — with a question that’s arguably the most common one I’m asked — without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years now. I’m 25 and he’s 34. We started dating when I was 18. I cheated on him, he wanted to work it out and I said no because I was young, wanted to experience life and wasn’t sure I could be faithful. He was hurt, of course, but I felt it was better to be honest than stay together and wind up cheating…

“He’s Not Physically Attracted to Me”

I’ve been seeing a recently divorced man for about a month. We have a fantastic time, a lot in common, and just an all-around amazing rapport. He recently went on a trip to New Orleans with friends, and spent a lot of the time texting me. We see each other twice a week and talk at least an hour a day. We do make out (which he really enjoys), and though he’s a bit arrogant, he’s very affectionate. There’s no question he’s into me as a person and the undertone to it is very romantic. He says, however, because he’s recently divorced, he doesn’t feel physically attracted to me — or to…

“Should I MOA From This Friendship?”

Two days ago I became a married woman. I had been engaged since September of last year and have had the wedding date set and bridesmaids selected since October. By Thanksgiving, the venue had been picked, the dresses (mine and the bridesmaids as well) had been chosen and prices calculated. I offered to buy the $140.00 dress anyone who could not afford it just to keep everything stress-free but all the bridesmaids turned the offer down, including the Matron of Honor. Now a little background on my Matron of Honor: we’ve been best friends since sixth grade. After I joined the Navy, she married a younger man who joined the Army at…

“Do I Have To Let My Bridesmaid Bring Her Deadbeat Boyfriend To My Wedding?”

I am getting married next May (I cannot wait!!!) and “Carrie,” one of my closest friends is going to be a bridesmaid. She’s very sweet and beautiful and I couldn’t imagine having another friend be a bridesmaid. With that said, she’s dating the lowest piece of man I have ever met. They are constantly making up and breaking up. He’s been arrested numerous times for drugs, as well as for hitting her and other women. He’s currently in a rehab facility where he will be until November. With Carrie being in the wedding, I know that she will most likely want to bring him along as her date. Am I allowed to…

“My Friend Lied to Me About Dating My Brother”

My good friend, “Meg,” and I were friends in high school and college, before she began dating my brother. Both of them lied to me about their relationship for an entire year, so needless to say, I was terribly hurt. It wasn’t just that they lied to me for a year, but that they told all of our mutual friends months before I knew, so I was made to look like an idiot. Then, about two years ago, they went through a rather nasty break-up after five years together. Meg and I didn’t talk much throughout the end of their relationship, and we just recently started spending time together again. In fact,…

“He Doesn’t Think I’m Fat Enough”

I met this guy “K” on the dating site, Plenty Of Fish, and he was amazing. We talked for HOURS the day he messaged me. He asked for my number so we could text, and I said, “Sure no problem,” — we had SO much in common I would’ve been a fool not to. We continue to text for another 3-4 hours non-stop that night. Next day, same thing — non-stop flirty texting. We work next door to each other, in the tourism industry, and make plans to meet up after work two days after we started talking. The evening goes AMAZING! We mesh well, convo flows like we’d known each other…

“I’m Worried About Him Cheating on Me”

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. We get along wonderfully and are each other’s best friends. We spend much of our time together and rarely go a day without seeing or hanging out with each other. He talks about our future and us being married and he’s very loving in our relationship. Lately, though, I’ve been having weird feelings about our relationship (woman’s intuition?) and so I recently checked his e-mail, which he gave me the password to awhile ago. My boyfriend’s very charming and naturally flirtatious, and the feeling I was having was that maybe he was talking to another girl or something of that nature….

“My Boyfriend Isn’t Ready To Be My Kid’s Stepdad”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for six months and it’s pretty clear to both of us that we are in love, highly compatible, and enjoy each other’s companionship. Even though it’s only been a short time we can both see a possibility of a long term relationship — marriage, moving…

“Is My Online Relationship Sketchy?”

In March, I met a guy online after resolving to gain an inkling of relationship experience despite trust issues. I was happy to discover that “Dude” wanted to be in a relationship as much as I did! We have been talking almost every night for about two hours and the online chats are always something to look forward to. The thing is, it has been three months and though we have chat online, we have only spoken once on the phone (because he’s so awkward), and traded photos that obscure our faces (Dude hates photos and dislikes sending anything with his face that can be replicated online). Usually I’d find this sketchy…

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