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“We struggled both financially and emotionally for many years, so it never felt like the right time for a baby. Now that things are finally falling into place for us, my husband wants to wait.”

I’ve been in a relationship for three years with “Paul,” an amazing guy who adores me. Even though theoretically I have everything I have always dreamt of (we have even discussed marriage), I still find myself frequently obsessing over another guy I met four years ago – “Aaron.” I met Aaron at university, and we hung out every day for the next week. He introduced me to his friends and he took me everywhere he went. I immediately felt connected to him, and it was amazing being together. After a week we kissed and I was in heaven (he looks like my dream guy). For our first night having sex, he had…

My sister, “Veronica,” is getting married in September, 2021 but is having a destination bachelorette party this weekend. It’s a large party and will involve a lot of close contact with 20 guests staying in a vacation house with only three bedrooms and two bathrooms. The plan involves visiting bars and restaurants in an area of our state with a quickly rising number of Covid-19 cases. A quarter of the guests are frontline healthcare workers who care for Covid-19 patients, another quarter of the guests are considered high-risk due to age and/or medical conditions, and 2/3 of the guests are flying in from other states (including Texas, Florida, and Arizona ??‍♀️). Further,…

I’ve been with a guy for nine months, and we have sex and hang out (but always in the house). He says he isn’t sexually attracted to me although I have a pretty face, and he looks at me and hopes that I lose weight. It’s offensive and hurts my feelings when he puts me down. My question is: If he isn’t sexually attracted to me, then why be with me? Or when we break up, why does he end up calling me? After the last incident I had enough and said I wasn’t going to continue unconditionally loving him and that he would get what he gives. That was two months…

We’re four months into the pandemic in most parts of the world and we all have stories of how it has negatively affected our lives – lost jobs and income, countless canceled events big and small, kids home from school, missing friends and family, getting sick, and even losing people in our lives. But what about the silver linings? What are some of the discoveries you’ve made during this time – things you’ve learned or enjoyed, new experiences, something positive that you would not have benefited from if not for this unprecedented global event? I’ll start:

I have been seeing this man for four years, and our relationship is physical but not romantic. He has been dating other women romantically – maybe even sleeping with them – but I am attracted to only him. We enjoy each other’s company, but we make no demands on each other. I am a 65-year-old widow and he is 70. We have kept our relationship a secret. But these days he has been talking about not wanting to grow old alone and how he would love to meet someone. This hurts me a lot. Should I stop this relationship and probably lose a chance to be intimate with anyone, or should I…

My fiancé, “Jim,” and I have been together for over four years now. He was married before and has four adult kids with his ex-wife. He’s a great person and I love being with him, but there’s just one problem: We’ve never been intimate. Ever. There’s an age gap – I’m 24 and he’s 48, but we click so well and life is just so calm and sweet with him. I’m quite impulsive, but he’s always supporting me in anything I decide to do, and he really does show he loves me every day. We’ve talked about the lack of a sex life, and when I say “lack of,” I mean I…