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I was seeing a man — “Rob” — last summer, whom I agreed to keep things casual with until, you guessed it, we fell for each other. He started taking me on romantic dinners, telling me how he cared for me and buying me lovely gifts. However, I was set to leave for a graduate writing program in the United Kingdom. He and my friends threw me a fabulous going away party. He stopped short of telling me he loved me, saying, “I love this, I love that and I love…” and trailed off. The day I flew to the UK he gave me his suitcase and e-mailed me THREE times to…

I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. In about a month, I’m going away to Costa Rica and Nicaragua for a little over two weeks, with no contact with anyone in the United States. He’s never cheated on me before, but I’m so afraid he’s going to. I told him I was scared and he told me he would never do anything like that to me, and that I’m the only girl he wants to be with. He also said, “Why would I cheat with anyone from our town anyway? They’d tell you! And since you’re gone, I have nowhere to go outside of town.” Should I be worried? Or…

I recently dated a guy for over a year, but due to the stress and emotional turmoil that the relationship put on me, and self-esteem issues that I suffered from originally, I became bulimic a few months into the relationship. Though I knew it was wrong, and that it could cause health issues, I didn’t stop until a few days before the relationship ended a few months ago. No one, especially my ex, knew about my eating disorder, and everyone believed that I was just eating right and exercising more, since that’s what I told them. After losing thirty pounds, I decided that I couldn’t live that unhealthy lifestyle anymore, and for…

I am a newly married 26-year-old. My husband and I have been living together for three years. I moved five hours away from all my friends and family to be with him. Prior to moving here I lived in a small town and where we live now is much larger and very close to a big city. My problem is that I really do not like living here. Other than the fact that I miss my family and friends all the time, I also find the people here to be insufferable. Almost EVERYONE I come in contact with is demanding, demeaning, rude, and stuck up. It just seems to me that everyone…

So I’ve been in a friend-with-benefits relationship for over five months now, and we’ve basically become best friends. He was just out of a six-year relationship when we started hooking up, which is why we kept things casual, but we spend 3-4 evenings together, text and talk everyday. Plus, we work in the same field so we usually see each other most mornings. We had the usual FWB rules about sex — we didn’t tell people, I didn’t stay the night (my personal rule, not his), and at the start it was implied that we were free to see other people. I had another FWB thing going on, but to be honest…

My fiancé and my social circle is very close, hosting potlucks every weekend and celebrating most parties at a house that we call “S House,” for anonymity’s sake. Well, a couple in our group — Julie and Kent —recently went through a very nasty breakup. Julie has always been very demeaning of Kent, treating him like a dog, using him for what little money he has, cheating on him and the like. Everyone in our group has tried to sit down with Kent at one point to try to talk some sense into him – he deserves much better than Julie. Besides all that, Julie is morally corrupt (she’ll screw over or…