“Do I Have To Let My Bridesmaid Bring Her Deadbeat Boyfriend To My Wedding?”

I am getting married next May (I cannot wait!!!) and “Carrie,” one of my closest friends is going to be a bridesmaid. She’s very sweet and beautiful and I couldn’t imagine having another friend be a bridesmaid. With that said, she’s dating the lowest piece of man I have ever met. They are constantly making up and breaking up. He’s been arrested numerous times for drugs, as well as for hitting her and other women. He’s currently in a rehab facility where he will be until November. With Carrie being in the wedding, I know that she will most likely want to bring him along as her date. Am I allowed to…

“My Friend Lied to Me About Dating My Brother”

My good friend, “Meg,” and I were friends in high school and college, before she began dating my brother. Both of them lied to me about their relationship for an entire year, so needless to say, I was terribly hurt. It wasn’t just that they lied to me for a year, but that they told all of our mutual friends months before I knew, so I was made to look like an idiot. Then, about two years ago, they went through a rather nasty break-up after five years together. Meg and I didn’t talk much throughout the end of their relationship, and we just recently started spending time together again. In fact,…

“He Doesn’t Think I’m Fat Enough”

I met this guy “K” on the dating site, Plenty Of Fish, and he was amazing. We talked for HOURS the day he messaged me. He asked for my number so we could text, and I said, “Sure no problem,” — we had SO much in common I would’ve been a fool not to. We continue to text for another 3-4 hours non-stop that night. Next day, same thing — non-stop flirty texting. We work next door to each other, in the tourism industry, and make plans to meet up after work two days after we started talking. The evening goes AMAZING! We mesh well, convo flows like we’d known each other…

His Take: “How Can I Broach the Topic of Marriage?”

What is a good way to bring up the topic of marriage in a relationship? For example, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now. We have already discussed thoroughly what our wants and time-lines are: we both want marriage and children within the next four years. We’ve also often discussed our ideas and values when it comes to marriage, raising a family and running a home, as well as how many children each of us want. We even frequently talk about baby names that we like and dislike. However, we’ve never specifically talked about marrying or having kids with each other. I’d like to ask my boyfriend if he sees…

“I’m Worried About Him Cheating on Me”

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. We get along wonderfully and are each other’s best friends. We spend much of our time together and rarely go a day without seeing or hanging out with each other. He talks about our future and us being married and he’s very loving in our relationship. Lately, though, I’ve been having weird feelings about our relationship (woman’s intuition?) and so I recently checked his e-mail, which he gave me the password to awhile ago. My boyfriend’s very charming and naturally flirtatious, and the feeling I was having was that maybe he was talking to another girl or something of that nature….

“My Boyfriend Isn’t Ready To Be My Kid’s Stepdad”

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“Is My Online Relationship Sketchy?”

In March, I met a guy online after resolving to gain an inkling of relationship experience despite trust issues. I was happy to discover that “Dude” wanted to be in a relationship as much as I did! We have been talking almost every night for about two hours and the online chats are always something to look forward to. The thing is, it has been three months and though we have chat online, we have only spoken once on the phone (because he’s so awkward), and traded photos that obscure our faces (Dude hates photos and dislikes sending anything with his face that can be replicated online). Usually I’d find this sketchy…

“My Best Friend is Setting Herself Up for Disaster”

Literally, since the day I was born “Kathy” and I were best friends. Like all friendships, we’ve been there for each other through the hardest times of our lives, and of course, the best! I’m an only child, and she’s been like a sister to me. Anyway, about five years ago, Kathy started cheating on her boyfriend, and baby’s father, with her boss from work, who also happened to be married. I told her from day one that I didn’t think this was a good idea, but she insisted she loved this man, so I turned a blind eye and never brought it up unless asked. Well, here we are, five years…

“He Told Me He’s Too Busy for Me. Should I MOA?”

I met a great guy a few months ago. He has a lot going for him in all aspects and is genuinely a wonderful man. Unfortunately, since he attends a great university and is a leader in several student organizations, he has limited free time, which he spends going to events with his frat brothers, catching up on sleep and finishing his school work. We don’t talk on a daily basis and we barely text, but when we are together (which is once every 2-3 weeks) we have a fabulous time and we can talk for hours. I have been pushing him to talk to me and see me more often, but…

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