“My Husband Wants a Second Baby, But I’m Done after One”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. My husband “George” and I have been together 15 years and married for 11 years. We have a son “Ed” who will be four this summer. Overall, our relationship is solid and we both adore our son, but there is one roadblock in our relationship and I feel a compromise…

“My Daughters Hate Me”

I am a pediatrician (I do not work full-time) and mother of two daughters – one is a 23-year-old medical student and the other, 17, is still in high school. I admit that I am not the best cook and I do struggle with it, but I love to clean like crazy. I never restrict my daughters from anything – whether they want to eat out or pick up food – it’s their freedom to do whatever they please as they are grown up now. Despite my efforts to keep them happy, they constantly scream at me for no reason and make me feel like a total “loser mom” (in their words)….

“Should I Stay With My Partner For My Son’s Sake?”

I’m a 35-year-old woman in a 15-year relationship with a man named “Bob.” I decided seven years ago that I wanted out. We aren’t compatible, among many other reasons. We haven’t slept in the same bed for 12 years. I have two children – our son, who is 11, and my daughter, who is 17. I met Bob when my daughter was only two years old. During these 15 years, we haven’t had much of a relationship. He has always worked and then just come home only to drink with neighbors in the garage until bed while I have taken care of the children, the house, etc. We have never even talked…

Update: “On The Fence” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “On the Fence,” the woman who was dating a guy, “Carl,” who still had a drawer of his ex-wife’s underwear, despite telling the LW he loved her and wanted to be exclusive with her. She was concerned about other red flags she noticed about what she considered lax boundaries with his ex, like fixing things in her house and removing the LW’s stuff when the ex comes over (to drop off their kids). Having been in an abusive…

“My Friend Has Cancer and Doesn’t Want to Talk to Me About It”

I want to reconnect – connect more closely – with my best friend, “Sarah.” We have been friends for 40 years! Moves have sometimes forced our relationship to be via calls and texting more than visits, but we live about an hour away from each other now. She was supportive of me as a family member died of cancer, and she herself was diagnosed with a dangerous cancer about a year ago. She was terrified and I was devastated. For three years prior, I went to chemo appointments, check-ups, CT and PT scans, and surgeries with my sick family member. I know the cancer fight. I told Sarah that I would be…

“My Matron of Honor Hates the Color of Her Dress”

I’m planning my wedding and have asked “Sue” to be my Matron-of-Honor after I was the Maid-of-Honor in her wedding. I’ve run into a conundrum with her that I’m not sure how to resolve. My fiancé and I picked out colors together and we chose a forest green color – not bright like emerald and not super dark either. Every photo of it we saw in other weddings looked gorgeous on the bridesmaids – all different hair colors, skin colors, and sizes looked good in it. Well, Sue hates it and is accusing me of trying to make her look bad. I’m trying my hardest to be accommodating. I’m not picking out…

“My Close Guy Friend Refuses To Introduce Me to His Girlfriend”

I met “Charles” at work about 18 months ago and we quickly became very good friends. Since then we have both accepted other opportunities and so we no longer work together. I am married, going on 18 years, and a mother of two teenagers. Charles was single at the time. Charles and I, along with my husband, used to go out all the time. Once my husband felt comfortable with the friendship that Charles and I have, he elected not to accompany us every time we go out. About eight months ago, Charles started dating someone. He asked me not to text him when he was out with her, and of course…

In Other Words: “Our Houseguests Woke Us with Their Loud Sex!”

Hello Wendy! I am a long-time reader and fan. I would love to hear your take on some advice I read today. The current Dear Prudence sometimes misses the mark, but this seemed really weak. I am sex positive. I am a mom. I would never have loud disruptive sex in someone else’s home – repeatedly – and then ask to stay with them for the summer! I think the LW handled it fairly well, but I’m interested to hear your opinion. I admit it wouldn’t be my kindest moment if someone upset my child in a totally avoidable way. For those who don’t want to click over, the letter this reader…

“My Girlfriend Won’t Let Me Come Over”

Recently, thanks to all this virus stuff, my girlfriend and I have been separated, with me at my apartment and she at hers. Lately, since restrictions have been loosening, I’ve tried talking to her about letting me come over so we can hang out. She keeps saying no, that it’s too risky. I think, however, that she doesn’t understand my needs, and that I can’t be just limited to digital connections. I’m also getting a sneaking suspicion that there might be a greater reason why she won’t let me come over, but that’s just my worries getting the best of me, I hope. But I can’t deny it: I’m starting to think…

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