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For clarity, I’m a lesbian but hate labels. With that said, I’m having trouble choosing between two women, both of whom I’ve dated before. I met ex #1 through work. She came on strong, and we had a very passionate relationship. I don’t think I have ever been that absorbed and given someone that much of myself before. But, after almost a year she decided we needed a break, which I took as an opportunity to meet new people. That’s when I met ex #2. We got together sort of knowing neither of us was in a place to commit to each other and we didn’t have any intentions to. However, we…

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about three months now and we recently met each other’s families. I really like his brothers, but his father has been getting on my nerves. I was offended once when he started talking about how firefighters are brainwashed to take an ax to the door every time they get a call, even if it’s not necessary. I don’t think he realized that both my grandfathers were firefighters and my father currently is a lieutenant in the fire department. I tried to not get offended by his statements, but we were in the car for a long drive, and I really didn’t want to sit there and…

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and although we’ve never had sex anywhere but at home, my boyfriend keeps condoms in his car, which I’ve recently expressed my discomfort over. He told me that he has always kept condoms in his car (even before me) and it is for no particular reason. However, he promised to remove them since it made me uncomfortable. Four weeks later, I found out he never removed them but rather put them in different locations in the car to throw me off. Every time we are about to have sex, he has to stop and get a condom out of his car,…

Last week, I shared with you my best breakup lesson ever and invited you to share your own in the comments or over email. You all had some great ones, and in the interest of helping other avoid broken hearts in the future, I’ve culled some of the best ones here in one easy-to-read list, after the jump. Feel free to print it out and keep it somewhere safe for the next time you need a reminder.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and things are going great. We get along really well, have the same values, and plan to get married some time in the future. The problem is, he has an ex girlfriend (of 4 years) who still maintains a relationship with his family, specifically his younger sister. My boyfriend doesn’t speak to this girl anymore as she treated him badly during their relationship. In the past, if we saw her in social settings, she was very rude to us both, but we haven’t seen her in a year and a half as we don’t live in the same town (my boyfriend’s home…