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New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I went out with a nice man, “Eric,” about 16 months ago. We met online and had two awesome dates. He was tall, handsome, and fun, and he had a good sense of humor. Even though he was fifty, I was immediately attracted to him, and he also found me…

Years ago I created a “love child” with a man I completely adored. No need to get into the semantics of it all, but I was on birth control and still ended up pregnant. I did the only thing I could think of at that time when I found out about my pregnancy…I took off halfway across the country and never told him about the pregnancy. I know it was very selfish and stupid, but at 19 years old, I wasn’t exactly the sharpest tool in the shed. And he had said in previous conversations that he could never handle a child, hence the reason for my abrupt departure from him. Throughout…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Torn Apart,” who felt her parents weren’t being supportive about her husband’s girlfriend having twins for her husband and her and were, in turn, treating her husband with hostility. She was especially concerned about her husband not being allowed on the title of the house her parents co-signed for. “Now I’m terrified about what could happen when I’m gone, and I’m getting papers drafted by a lawyer for my parents and husband to sign that will guarantee that…

I am a father of three and have been with my partner, “Marie,” for over ten years. Everything was good for the first seven or eight years, and then things started to slow down in the bedroom. She was having hormone issues, so I gave her space and wasn’t pushy. Last week she told me she was thinking of getting her own place and wanted to know my opinion. I told her to make me a list of pros and cons, and we’d go from there. I love Marie lots and have no pros for her moving out, but I have a laundry list of cons. From her own list, I gathered…

My husband and I have been married for 15 years. He recently started a new job as a flooring manager, and one of his responsibilities is ordering supplies either over the phone or in emails with multiple companies and sometimes different sales representatives. I noticed that he kept mentioning one particular female sales rep whom he said he had to speak or email with several times a week. I didn’t have an issue until one night he mentioned her name in his sleep and started giggling. Then she sent him a friend invite on Facebook. Later my husband and I were sitting on the sofa as he started showing me a video…

I was part of a Facebook group, related to a cruise I took with my husband and children. It was a fun and active group that I really enjoyed. On a few occasions, I exchanged DMs with other members of the group, relating to cruise activities. During the cruise I introduced myself and my husband to the group admins. Shortly after returning, I updated my profile picture. This led to a male group admin, “John,” DMing me to tell me he liked my new picture. I thanked him and let it go, but a few days later he asked a question via DM and we started chatting. I wanted to believe it…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I met my current boyfriend in November, and in December I became pregnant even after taking Plan B. I found out on January 10th that I’m pregnant, and I have not felt happy since, to say the least. My boyfriend, however, was ecstatic, and he has shared his happiness with…

From the forums: I’m a 27-year-old female virgin. I didn’t plan on remaining a virgin for this long, but after seeing sex produce so many negative ripple effects, I find it just kinda happened. I’ve watched the complexities of sex downgrade so many women’s lives and minds. Complexities like the insulting pain of being used and disposed like tissue, giving away your body to a man who won’t give you his heart, the emotional and physical trauma of abortion and being haunted by guilt, and the reality of merging your DNA with a man who honestly wouldn’t have been your first choice to build a family with. There’s the risk of single…

We invited my 20-year-old niece to visit us in Florida and she said she would come if she could bring her boyfriend. We bought their tickets, which were expensive, and re-arranged medical stuff because of their short notice. The morning they were expected to arrive they let us know that they had given up their seats in exchange for some high-priced travel vouchers which meant we had even less time with them. Since we had paid for their tickets, we felt they would at least offer to give us one or both vouchers. Nope! While here they would walk far in front of us when going places, leave their belongings everywhere, and…

I have been with this guy, “Tony,” for a year and four months. He’s 30 now and I am only 24. Age is not an issue in this case though. At the beginning, he told me he did not want a relationship due to the fact he had been cheated on by his fiancée in his own bed five years earlier. Months went by and I asked what we were and where we were going, and he said he just wanted to take things slow, which I understood because of his past. Then somehow I ended up staying the night at his place so often that I was basically living with him;…