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I’m in my late twenties and have been with my boyfriend — also in his late twenties — for nearly two years now. He is a good man and I love him deeply. A couple of months after we started dating, a close friend of his, “Jane,” broke up with her boyfriend. She took it really hard and my boyfriend was there for her quite a lot. I did not initially have a problem with this as it was mainly just spending time with her and her having a shoulder to cry on. Two months after Jane’s breakup, my boyfriend decided to plan a trip to his hometown, inviting Jane, me, and…

I am two years out of college and have been with my current “boyfriend,” “Peter,” for six years. We were been long-distance for the first four of these six years, as I was studying/interning abroad or across the country and Peter was finishing college and landing his first (and current) job, where he has been quite successful. Two years ago, I moved close to where Peter lives and works, and last year I was finally able to move to the same town as he lives in. But as we got closer geographically, an emotional distance grew between us. We had many ugly fights, including one where I felt concern for my safety…

My boyfriend of five years has a 24-year-old daughter who lived with him until a few months ago. I was supposed to move in at the time, but due to my job we have to wait another year. He asked her to move back in with him because he has never lived alone and can’t bear it. Well, she’s thinking about it to save money because he will not charge her anything. She’s an RN and has a decent income. The problem is that I stay with him on the weekends and it becomes uncomfortable. I find their relationship odd. She sends him pictures of herself whenever she’s dressed up. I also…

My boyfriend and I have been dating almost eight months and have always had a lot of chemistry. Kissing has never been a problem for us. However, near the end of June, I caught a cold. We made the mistake of making out while I had it, and soon enough he caught it too. Within a week, I was healed, but it wasn’t the same for him. No matter how much medicine and sleep he got he seemed to stay sick. And every time we kissed, even if it was short, he’d say a few hours later that he felt sick again and that I keep getting him sick. I’ve tried to…

I’m a 41-year-old man who until recently was living with a 32-year-old woman, “Carla,” for three years. We were in an open relationship and for a year she dated another man who lived in a nearby city. She was always wanting to get married and even offered to stop seeing him, but I was skeptical of marriage as an institution in general. I didn’t want an artificial ceremony to be the cause of one of us to stay with the other if things got bad later. In March, Carla asked me again and for the second time suggested that she might be gone one day if I didn’t marry her. She had…