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New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I’m a college student and I have recently broken up with my long-term boyfriend. I have been friends with a guy, “Scott,” at my college for about a year (we’re very close) and I would hang out with him a lot. It was always very innocent as he knew about…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Ghosted Fifty-Something” who wrote in last month when her boyfriend (also in his 50s) ghosted her after eight months together. She wrote: “It’s definitely over for him. I just don’t know why, and for the life of me I can’t figure out what I did or didn’t do. There were some signs of slight pulling away, but that happens with anyone at times. Up until now we talked or connected every day and it was good; now,…

My last marriage ended in divorce after 38 years due to my ex’s cheating. He remarried a few years later and his new wife puts things on Facebook about our former marriage, saying they both came from horrid situations. She also refers to my adult children as her daughters. I have no contact with my ex as he put me through eight awful years of his chasing other women prior to my filing for divorce. I doubt he told his new wife the real reasons for our divorce, but I’m upset she posts things like this on social media. We have a few mutual friends, so I hear about these posts and…

My girlfriend, “Kylie,” and I have been dating for almost two years. I am almost 21; she is 20 and has a two-year-old son, “Ben.” Ben’s father is someone who bullied me when we were young and is a very bad and abusive person. Ben doesn’t see his dad much (though he does see his father’s family), and his dad doesn’t pay any kind of child support. Kylie and I have always primarily hung out without Ben. I do see him when I go over or stay the night, of course, and during the first few months of his birth I was helping her hand and foot to do what I could…

Hey Wendy, first-time LW and recent fan, hoping you can help me with some advice! I have been with my long-distance boyfriend, “Craig,” almost a year and a half. We both graduate with undergrad degrees in December (we are a little older than the typical college grad crowd) and talk about moving then and eventually marrying. I love him and he makes me very happy; he is truly the only person I feel I can be completely myself around, but we differ on one big issue: He wants biological children while I have zero interest in that.(I might in the future but right now cannot guarantee it and find it unlikely.) I…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I’ve been with my boyfriend, “Larry,” for a year and three months, and he just moved in with me. Larry has two daughters — one is about to graduate from high school and the other is in college. The one graduating high school has decided that she wants to go…

I’ve learned a lot from this post, “8 Things You Need to Do Before You Move For Love,” and the comment thread, but I could still use your advice. I’m in a relationship of about three months that feels like way longer. We hit it off right away and have spent at least three nights a week together since the very start, so basically half-living with each other. We are each others’ “best” by far, and both of us see a lot of long-term potential for the relationship. He has inspired me to think of the future so much more and work even harder on improving myself. When we first met, he…

My ex-boyfriend, “Dan,” and I dated for two years, bought a house together, etc., and it all came crashing down when I realized our dreams did not align fully enough for us to continue our relationship. It ended on fairly good terms up until the house sale, and things seemed to be going as well as they could. I was struggling a bit, but I wasn’t super open about it to any of my friends or family; I figured it was a natural feeling during a breakup. During this time frame, none of my friends reached out to see how I was doing, and they all seemed to turn on me –…

I’m a creative person with a lot of energy; I love learning, cooking, reading, textile arts (embroidery, sewing, and crochet), digital design (but I’m not good enough to be a graphic designer), and natural health. I’m also a mom of three very young lovely kids. But since I left college, which was 12 years ago, I have not been able to focus on just one thing. I’m always trying to find ways of possibly making a living from home doing something that matters to me and for others, but I cannot seem to find this within me. Everyone I know always tells me I’m talented and should do something, but I’m like,…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. Last night after a particularly rough middle-of-the-night wake-up by my toddler, my husband confessed to me that he deeply regrets having our child. He wishes that he could return to our peaceful life before the baby was born. He knows it’s not possible and he’s very heartbroken by that. From…