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New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. My boyfriend recently let me borrow his iPad, I snooped, and found forty-seven pictures he took a year ago (before we started dating) of his best friend’s wife. In the pictures she was passed out naked and drunk next to his best friend.They don’t know he took the pictures. I…

Last week I reminded my husband that his mom’s birthday was on Sunday. Then he mentioned that his sister had called and said the adult children were planning on taking her out to dinner. I said that would be great, but he didn’t know any details about time or place. After a few days I asked my husband if he had heard back from his sister yet, and he said no. So I texted her and let her know that we were looking forward to celebrating Mom’s birthday and to let us know the time and place. After no text back, I called and left the same message. By the end of…

A friend of mine sent a friend request to my husband after our wedding four months ago without mentioning it to me. Then she proceeded to “Like” all my husband’s posts from 2008 onwards! I found out about this because other friends started asking about her. So I was surprised…and finding out the way I did wasn’t cool. Please note that my husband has many female friends, very attractive at that, but I see nothing excessive or inappropriate in their behavior. I know his exes and even have a soft spot and liking for some of them. But this classmate of mine irks me for some reason. When I asked questions, very…

Yesterday was my birthday and I don’t usually like a fuss, so I spent the day pampering in a spa and asked my on/off boyfriend of two years to spend the evening with me, which he agreed to. The day came, and there were no plans made by him. He wished me a happy birthday in the morning, but made no mention afterward about the plans for that evening. I asked him through text about what the plans were when it got to be evening, and he said there’s no rush. At this point, it was getting very late so I wished him a good night and went to sleep. The next…

My boyfriend slept with another girl and the girl got pregnant. Now the baby is four months old. From the time he impregnated the gal, I’ve been sleeping with him but I haven’t gotten pregnant. Is it possible that if he impregnated another woman, I might not fall pregnant? — Not Pregnant

I have been seeing a man,”Greg,” who is a great friend of my brother’s, for almost eight months now. His friends know about me because of my brother, but he’s uncomfortable telling his family about me. We are both divorced and both have children from our prior marriages. He is a bit older than I, but his ex-wife is about my same age so I know the age gap isn’t the issue. My three children know about him, not by my own choice — my oldest figured it out and confronted me and the younger two were told by their dad. Greg and I rarely get to see each other because we…

I have been in a relationship for a year and a half now. I believe I have never loved anyone like I have my boyfriend, and he’s great to me. For just over a year he has stopped doing things with me though and stays home leaving me to hang out with my girlfriends, which bothers me. So in the meantime and not on purpose, I have made friends with a guy who has a solid career at his father’s business. He has promised me that if we were together, he would provide for me and treat me better than I’m treated in my current relationship. I would be able to go…

My fiancé of four years is a captain in the Air Force and just deployed. While using his laptop for schoolwork, I ran across emails and multiple nude photos of women. After searching a little deeper, I found that these photos came from Craigslist ads that he had responded to. Not only did he respond, he gave out his number and had them text him these pictures which he then forwarded from his phone to his email. I’ve discovered that he has been doing this for years. He has responded to ads about sexual massages and even tried to set up a meeting (I can’t tell whether the meeting actually happened or…

This is the time of year that I would normally be writing columns and creating gift guides for Wedding Week here on DW. Well, I don’t feel like making it a big thing this year. —-Some of you are now popping open the champagne and screaming, “Hells yeah, bitches!” but, before you get too carried away, I’d like to dedicate this single post to all things wedding-related. Think of this as a condensed version of Wedding Week, where we can discuss wedding trauma and drama and joy and fun. (You can still pop the champagne though.) Are you currently planning a wedding? Feel free to vent your stress here. Are you in…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Like I Lost Another Husband” who wrote in about a year and a half ago when her boyfriend of two years left her after his mother died of cancer, telling her he didn’t want to love or be loved. “I’m out of my mind with grief now and feel like I just lost another husband. Why is he doing this?! He said he hates me because I won’t leave him alone and respect his wishes. What about…