Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Indecisive” who wrote in two years ago this week asking, “How many red flags are too many?” She listed the so-called red flags and I told her they weren’t so much red flags as they were justifications she was making for not being into the guy. Keep reading to see how she’s doing now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Hurt Wife” who needed some validation that divorcing her cheating, manipulative, verbally abusive husband after 18 years of marriage didn’t make her an awful person. Keep reading to see whether she pulled the trigger.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Hoping for Happiness” who moved in with her boyfriend’s family after her mother kicked her out. She felt guilty though because, although she was grateful to his family for providing her a home, she didn’t feel completely committed to a future with him. Keep reading to see whether they’re still living under the same roof and how she’s doing today.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Brand New Wife” who wondered whether she should MOA from what sounded like a very one-sided friendship. My response was one of the few times I gave only a one-word answer. Keep reading for an update.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Cooling Off Girlfriend” whose boyfriend of six months was showing serious signs of depression and becoming irrationally hostile. He infamously even blew up over one of her exes liking a photo she posted on Facebook. Of a cupcake. Keep reading to see whether they’re still together or if the cupcake was the last straw.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Dad’s Side,” a woman whose father was excluded to the wedding of longtime family friends after his infidelities and subsequent divorce. “My dad is much closer to the bride’s family,” she wrote, “than either my mom, sister, or I [who have been invited].” She wondered whether it would be OK if she asked the bride why her dad didn’t score an invite. Keep reading to see whether she did and what the answer was.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Thinking I Should Have Eloped,” the bride whose fiancé’s sister was demanding that her baby not only be allowed at the wedding, but be the ring bearer as well. Keep reading to see whether the LW decided to allow the baby to come or not.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Lost Sleep” who was losing sleep over her live-in boyfriend spending the majority of his nights in singles chat rooms online. He “stays on the sites until 3 AM when he has to be to work at 8,” she wrote. “He rushes me through sex so I’ll fall asleep afterward, and he can then log onto his chat sites.” Keep reading to see whether she’s still with this gem.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Conflicted in Love/Hate” who was devastated to learn that, prior to dating her, her boyfriend slept with two sisters and even let her befriend one before letting her know about their past. “If I could go back in time, I would never have chosen a guy that did the disgusting things he did,” she said, but explained that it was too hard to leave now that she’d fallen in love. Keep reading to see how they’re doing…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Love or Security” a woman in her late 20s who was dating a screenwriter with an inconsistent work schedule and unstable finances. She was happy with him, but she was worried about some comments her father made: “[He] mapped out how much money I would be missing out on if I chose to stay with my boyfriend. He also spoke about retirement (for me) and how difficult it would be for me to live comfortably given my…