DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I don’t watch TV either so I understand where you’re coming from, but I’d say take it. He’s going to give it away anyway, it will update your apartment, and when you do watch shows or movies it will be nicer. I wouldn’t let pride get in the way here.
Thanks Sky and Kate. I knew I was probably being weird about it. I have no problem accepting small things. Larger items make me a bit more uncomfortable. It’s an extremely nice gesture. I’ll tell him we can make the switch.
He probably would prefer it anyway since we watch a couple hours of TV at my apartment every week anyway.
Yeah if he were buying you a tv that would be much different…in this case I think it’s not weird at all and nice of him to offer to you first. And I’m sure you are right he’ll appreciate having it at your place to have a nicer one there to watch.
I was annoyed when my ex left his older (but still decent, and flat) screen tv when he moved out. He left everything…every dish, every piece of furniture we bought, and only took like clothes, video games, and books. He made it clear he’d throw the tv away if I didn’t want it and so I was like…you know what? I like having two tvs. So I kept it and I’m glad I did.
I have a date on Friday and it’s the first one since the terrible awful horrible break up. It’s too soon, and I KNOW it’s too soon. It’s a friend of a friend who I met a few weeks ago and told him to ask me out again when some time had passed. Never had a guy wait a full month to take me to dinner before. In any case he’s a really nice guy and I figure worst case scenario I go and it’s boring/we don’t click. Still feeling nervous.
@Kmen, maybe its too soon for another relationship, but I think a date would actually be good. When I had my awful horrible breakup, what was now like 7 years ago eek, I went out with someone I had had a crush on for awhile, about 2 months after the break up… we dated on and off for like 6 months, super casual before actually embarking on a relationship, and honestly it was perfect. I was in no place for a relationship at that time, but the hooking up, talking, flirting, dates, were really great to take my mind off things. I was still really depressed and in love with my ex and mourning and getting over things, but being with this other guy helped a shit ton. It was just easy peasy and distracted me. So as long as you know yourself and what you are capable of, you should be good to go. If it is too soon for you to even be dating, I think you’ll know that by the end of the date and can move forward accordingly.
Also @Ktfran I was really weird about giving in/letting my boyfriend give me bigger things when we first got together, now, it is like what is mine is mine what is yours is yours. He bought half the furniture in my living room because I was too broke at the time and has given me lots of stuff he doesn’t need/use anymore. I get the feeling weird about it, but its almost more awkward if you don’t accept it. Also it benefits him if you are watching tv together at your house, so he may have a slight ulterior motive 🙂 big step though and i get how uncomfortable that is.
my boyfriend and I are finally talking about moving in together, and actually moving away together to a new city for my graduate school, and it is really scary but really exciting. it is early stages yet, but i really hope it all comes together. I have never lived with anyone I have been dating, but I think we are ready.
Yay Kmen! Go and hopefully have fun. It’ll be a good distraction and I do think it’s nice that he asked you out again at a later date, when you were more ready. That’s awesome that he was listening to you and proceeded accordingly.
Mucha, I hope you’re having good talks about the move. That’s also exciting. Good luck! How long have you been together? I can’t remember.
@ktfran I say take the tv. If he were buying you a new one specifically as a gift, I think that would be too much. However, if he’s benefiting from the hand-me-down tv being at your place, just accept it as a nice gesture and enjoy it.
@kmen I hope you have fun on your date and enjoy getting out and about with a new guy 🙂
I have my second date tonight. I’m hoping to take a quick power nap after work. I flew back home last night and landed at midnight so I didn’t make it to bed until 2 and was at work by 8 – so I’m tired! The plan is for sushi or a place with a patio since the weather is so nice. Hope everyone has a great Tuesday!
@kmentothat sadly no update, or date for that matter.
My flight got in super late Monday night from ATL (I didn’t get to bed until 2 am and had to be at work at 8) so I was exhausted Tuesday and he was feeling sick so we cancelled. Then we tried to reschedule for last night (and without going into a lot of details because jimmyjam will accuse me of releasing his identity (gasp!)) – we had to cancel last night because of his work. There’s a big event coming up and he got stuck with clients and so we cancelled again. Nothing rescheduled yet because this big event starts over the weekend so we are playing it by ear until he knows his work schedule a little better and knows he won’t have to cancel on me.
So I drank a glass of wine and painted my nails last night after a deep tissue massage. Not a bad night all in all.
I hope you have fun on your date tomorrow night 🙂
Thanks guys! We have been together about 3 years, just a shade under. We are working with a really short time line and I am not sure how it will all come together, but exciting to think about nonetheless.
thanks @ktfran
I will tell a quick funny story.
So I’m obsessed with stars. I have a star tattoo and there’s a barn star on the front of my house and I have a star in every room of my home somewhere. Subtle, but it’s like a scavenger hunt to find them.
When I was on the first date with this guy we were talking about my star obsession and he got out his phone and was on it for a few minutes and so I gave him a hard time. Then he forwarded me a text confirmation. He bought me a star. You know those “name your own star registry” things? So I have a star named after me now. It was kind of adorable and hilarious at the same time.
