DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Yeah and then a month or two later I was like, I don’t want no babies! Like I said I went back and forth!
things continue to go well with the firefighter! we had lunch today and then he left for berlin for a few days – not sure if i’ll get a chance to see him before i leave for wroclaw.
i’ve read a lot on here about dating “against type.” i realized the firefighter has a similar body type/facial hair and some personality similarities to my college boyfriend. they even have very similar names. it’s kinda freaking me out a little bit. but i had a (for the most part) great relationship with my college boyfriend, soooo maybe it’s not a bad thing? thoughts?
@lucia_la I think the dating against type thing is solid advice for someone who repeats the same unhealthy patterns. Or dates the same kind of guy over and over and it never works. If what you’re doing works and you feel good, there is nothing wrong with it. It’s not a hard and fast rule; rather a good tactic to employ when what you’re doing isn’t working. Change it up, try something new.
http://andthatswhyyouresingle.com/2016/04/25/why-do-men-get-away-with-being-assholes/
She’s posted a lot lately about how online dating has totally changed, and the flakiness and hookup mentality has spilled over into mainstream sites. I’m sure she’s right and it’s completely different than it was 4 years ago. I think the column above is a good reality check. It’s not that relationships can’t happen from online dates, it’s just a whole new world where you can’t feel any sense of security until several dates in (or more). Ugh. I revise my earlier comments about guys on Tinder using it with the intention of hookups… I think you have to assume that on every site or app now. People who said that a few pages back were right.
“a whole new world where you can’t feel any sense of security until several dates in (or more).”
Exactly. Two great dates with that guy last week, and the last thing he said to me was what a great time he was having with me. And… he has officially disappeared off the face of the earth.
Flakes.
@lucia glad you’re having a good time!
I’m officially back from paradise and other than having my Ray Bans stolen in the airport on the way home it was a great time! No mexican hookups because it was mostly couples at the resort, and that’s just fine by me. We hung out with an awesome couple from London and made good friends.
I came home to a bunch of nasty messages on Tinder and OkCupid, so yay for online dating! It just kinda sucks lol. Probably time for another break. Now I have time to paint my bedroom and go to crossfit more than once a week, so I’ll just do that 🙂
@veritek33 Glad you had some fun in the sun! After that mess with the last creep, I think it was a well deserved break.
@Lianne it’s so hot that he was a firefighter! Glad it’s going well.That article really scared me. I did online dating years back (only match) and as soon as I became single again I was like NO there’s no way I can do Tinder and Bumble and OKC. I have friends that met boyfriends and husbands from all these sites but I’m so much more a one person at a time dater that I feel alienated by them. Pretty much everyone’s M.O. is to date a ton of people so you aren’t bummed out if someone doesn’t work out and the endless stream of options makes it harder to really connect. Still haven’t jumped into online dating thank God, but it does seem tough out there.
Things are going good for me, dude helped me move over the weekend then we went to a BBQ for his friend’s bday. He didn’t have to travel this week for work so I’m having him over tonight to cook him a thank you dinner for helping with the move (it was a haaaard move). I’m roasting a chicken, and all I can think about is if this doesn’t work out I will be pissed I spend $50 on items to craft the perfect cheese plate haha
@kmtthat girl if it doesn’t work out i’ll come eat the perfect cheese plate with you! I’ll even help unpack a box! 🙂
@veritek33….sooooo the perfect cheese plate didn’t get eaten, he cancelled 45 mins before he was supposed to come over. I was like “I can’t eat a whole chicken!” I guess while he was getting ready his work was emailing and texting him that he messed something up for a client and had to fix it ASAP and it was going to take a good amount of time. He’s a consultant at a start up so that’s just how it goes sometimes.
He called and apologized profusely and promised to make it up to me. It’s the third time he’s had to cancel on me night-of and we’ve only been dating just over a month. It’s been twice for work and once because he got a migraine, so I get it…but I’m still annoyed.
@kmtthat aw man! I know the feeling, happened twice with the last guy (crazypants.) Incidentally, he tried to contact me last night via intstagram direct message thingy. (because i blocked him on my phone and facebook.)
Y’all were right. The crazies always come back for more.
Anyway, put the cheese and the chicken in the fridge and I’ll come eat it with you. I’ll bring the booze 😉
