DW Community Catch-up Thread
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@kare in response to your question about crossfit injuries….I don’t know! I’ve only been doing it since January and this is the first time I’ve hurt myself but I can’t blame it solely on that. I have a bad back to start with and I was just trying to do too much. I’ve had similar pain and a popping sensation happen after I grabbed a pair of pants out of the dryer. So I can’t say if working out caused this or just bad back stuff. I do know that at my particular gym they are really good about making sure you are doing the moves right or they stop you immediately so you don’t hurt yourself. I can’t speak for other gyms. I tend to go to the less popular class times so we seem to get more individual attention than the larger classes.
I hope everyone had a good weekend! I got to take my 81 year old grandpa to a baseball game in a luxury suite and you’d think he’d died and gone to heaven. It was really cool and I’m glad I got to do it 🙂
Y’all, I got stood up this weekend. Remember that guy I met with all the chemistry? Well, we were supposed to meet for drinks after dinner Saturday. He told me Saturday afternoon that he would text me after dinner, but then he just…never did. I never heard from him. Still haven’t. What the fuck?? I’ve obviously already written him off and deleted his number and everything, but it still stings. I’m also just confused. We had two great dates, he asks ME to hang out a third time, and then he just blows me off like I’m nothing.
@shakeourtree Welcome to the club lol. I’ve had countless guys ask ME out again, tell me how much they like me, only to disappear.
I read this article recently that I found fascinating. It was written by a man. And he said in the article, men will tell you these things because it really is how they feel in the moment (i.e. I really like you, I’m having such a good time with you, etc), but it doesn’t necessarily mean they are thinking beyond that moment at all, and they are completely clueless that women take these statements to mean that the guy sees a future with them.
I can’t even count how many times I’ve beat myself up wondering what I did wrong after a guy has said all these sweet things to me, only to disappear. I’ve wondered WHY would he say that or do this if he wasn’t really into me? Well now I know. The things they say in the moment don’t mean shit.
so, wondering if anyone else has noticed this, and it does not just apply to dating IME, though often: when someone says “definitely” it actually means “never”? Like, “I will definitely call you” or “I definitely wanna help with __” and then they just ghost/don’t at all? Not sure if this is a regional thing or just specific to me … ?
This went beyond a typical blow off, which I am accustomed to. We had plans to meet at a place around a certain time. He told me at 4PM that he would text me as he was leaving dinner so we would get there at the same time, and then nothing. It just seemed like a whole lot of effort to put into being an asshole when there were far easier ways to blow me off that also wouldn’t have been so hurtful.
That’s super odd @shakeourtree. It makes me wonder if something happened to him. Did you attempt to reach out at all?
Of course, if it really was just a really fucking weird blow off, I commend you for immediately deleting his number and writing him off!!!
I noticed that he’s been on OkCupid, so he’s (a) still alive and (b) has a way of getting in contact with me.
@shakeourtree, Did you call him out on this despicable behavior? Did you sent a message asking what happened to him? That’s what I would do before deleting his number. These assholes need to be called out on being assholes.
Like, let’s say this wasn’t a date who stood you up, but a new friend — maybe someone you met online (like say a local DW friend you’d emailed a couple times, had lunch with and then made plans to get together with again). Let’s say that DW friend stood you up and then you noticed her commenting on the site later. What would you do? If it were me, I’d say, “Hey, what happened? We had plans! You said you were going to text and then, nothing! Was there a misunderstanding?” And then if that person still ignored me, I’d tell her she was incredibly rude and that she wasted my time, and THEN I’d delete her number and write her off.
