DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I think one of the worst feelings in dating is the idea that rug is pulled out from under you. Did they change? How? Or was I wrong about them the entire time? It totally blows being in that position. Sorry you’re experiencing something like that now, Stone. 🙁
@BGM I just got asked out on a picnic date! How timely of you.
Happy hour guy asked me out last night to a musical his friends are in next week and said we can do a picnic beforehand. This is the first time he’s put that much initiative into coming up with a plan and actually asking me with more than a day’s notice, so it’s the first time it actually feels like a date lol. Expectations will continue to be low though. I do love picnics however.
@lucia_la I completely understand how you feel and I agree with you. Whenever yet another date / potential romance goes wrong, it’s never about the guy in particular, but I can’t help but feel shitty about “having the rug pulled out from under you” as you said. And sometimes, no matter how hard you try not to have any expectations, you just can’t help how you feel.
You guys, I continue to find out more. He had proposed! Totally different stories. I definitely don’t feel sad about breaking up anymore. I am furious. I’m also stressed, and wondering (again) if anything he ever told me was true the entire time I’ve known him.
I thought he was conflicted and confused, but well-intentioned. Now I’m leaning toward ‘sociopath’. I can’t help but wonder if he was just fucking with me the whole time.
His other partner seems really lovely. I definitely feel like she deserves better than this, and I feel kind of terrible for her.
It all just feels like this whole other level of lying, and I can’t even think what on earth the purpose of it could have been. I have sent a couple messages since I found out yesterday and he has not responded. Either there are actually too many lies to list, or the coward is ghosting me.
Stone I’m so very sorry. I don’t think ANY of us saw that coming from what you’ve shared with us. Not even a tiny hint of that. He truly does sound like just a terrible person, and he’s now revealed himself so that maybe it’ll be easier to get over him and find the primary partner you want and deserve.
Just catching up on all this, I’m so sorry, @Stonegypsy. I feel bad for his other partner as well, ugh. At least you will be done with him now.
Yikes, some people are pathological. I wonder why he lied to you, especially since its an open relationship, I mean what was to gain… super bizarre. I am sorry you are going through a rough time but hopefully this makes it a lot easier to get over it. I wouldn’t even bother giving him the satisfaction of messages or getting in touch with him to figure out why he lied and what the extent of his lies were. yick
I actually meant that for Stone rather than for me. When you’ve been dating for longer, I think that rug pulled out situation/feeling is so much worse. 🙁
What. The. Fuck. I never would have seen that coming @stone. Is she staying with him? I don’t see how an open relationship would work without honesty.
She’s giving him a shot. Monogamously, for now. I’ve told her to let me know if she ever needs a place to stay. We’re getting a drink tomorrow. Maybe I’ll at least make a new friend out of this. And she’s new in town, and I have a lovely group of nerds to introduce her to. I feel like she deserves better, but she’s been in this longer than I have, so I guess I get it.
This all does make it so so much easier to let go. I’m so filled with blind rage for both her and myself, there’s no room for sadness.
I am still just entirely in shock. I am fairly certain I’ve never been lied to on this level before.Just catching up on this, I’m sorry @stone! What an asshole.
You are so kind. You deserve better. I hope she sees through his bs. The issue with more time…you’d think that’d make it even more apparent it’s time to go if he was lying to her so much. Yuck.
