@kmtthat Thank you for voicing something that I’ve been feeling acutely for several years now. THANK YOU. I feel the exact same way. It’s so strange to hear everyone else so excited about their holiday plans when I don’t usually have anything going on if I’m not visiting my family (which usually only happens at Christmas). Like, this year my sister is living with me so we’ll maybe go out for the 4th, but usually I’m not doing anything and have 3-4 days just languishing in front of me while everyone else is busy or out of town.

I actually emailed several different friend groups last week about getting together while KNOWING they were all going to be busy with their families…but I felt like I had to at least try to see people. Sure enough, they all are.

Over Thanksgiving this past year I really, really struggled with it and got pretty seriously depressed. Now, I know I need to schedule at least one thing every day to keep me from getting pretty dangerously sad and lonely.

Also, the fireworks scare my little dog so I feel wrong leaving her alone in the house by herself. 🙁

Anyway, you’re not alone and thank you so much again for voicing what I have been feeling! Maybe we could all do a DW Google hangout or something (with wine! or margaritas!) on occasions like this. 🙂

First and foremost, are all the other cat owners/wine drinkers here aware of Pinot Meow and MosCATo, the catnip wine for cats? http://www.boredpanda.com/catnip-wine-for-cats-apollo-peak/ Now you have a drinking buddy, @kmtthat!

But in all seriousness, I think a lot of people — particularly single folks — feel that way. Especially at this age (I just turned 30), it feels like seemingly everyone has paired off. Most of my friends are also married or seriously couple up, both the ones who lives locally or far away, and I sometimes feel so left out. My closest friend in my city recently started dating someone and even though she’d insisted we do dinner together to catch up for my bday, bailed because the guy she’s been seeing for a hot second was available. I get that new relationships are exciting, but c’mon! I’m moving to a new place next week but that was the moment that after I’m done with the physical moving process, I need to get back into “make new friends!” mode and hopefully meet more single friends, haha. (Not that the married or coupled ones aren’t great, just sometimes I feel like I need more friends who can relate!)

I am going camping with my FWB this weekend and a bunch of his friends. I may be the odd one out though as half are from Mexico (where he is from), so might be a little lost in the conversation at times.

Also, if you don’t have plans for this weekend, or the next for the Americans, don’t worry, you aren’t missing out on much. Honestly, one day of fireworks isn’t a huge loss. Maybe go out and do a hike, get your nails done, go to a new restaurant you have wanted to try, or go to your town/cities event they host for the day. I think there are truly more important holidays you could be celebrating compared to Independence Day and Canada Day. As patriotic as I am (WOOOO CANADA!), it’s a little overrated haha

SO guys…. i totally got ghosted last night after hearing from him Monday night and yesterday morning to confirm/pick a place. We chose the place around 11 then i asked him around noon what time and nothing….I texted again at like 5 but it was pretty clear that he had gone dark. I wasnt upset because whatevs hes a rando, BUT i was pissed because my time is my time! Dont mess with it and be a jerk! It takes one txt to bail on plans, literally no big. It just makes me feel sad about the human race when people are so rude and inconsiderate.

oh man@ sararosie that is ridiculous, especially since you blocked off your night to spend time with him. that is such a rude thing to do to someone.

I’m so sorry @sararosie! Add me to the list of people who don’t “get” ghosting, especially since texting makes it pretty easy to let someone down. I’ve been ghosted once after a couple months of dating someone and it was baffling. I was so upset and frustrated because we’d planned dates for a couple weeks out by that point. I will say, though, that I don’t want to be with anyone who treats the people he dates that way (again — SO easy these days to send a quick “sorry, but no thanks” message) because I can’t even imagine how they’d handle an *actual* issue. It sucks, @sararosie, but I hope you’ll feel you’re better off!

The guy I’ve been out with a few times from Tinder wants to spend Fourth of July together. I really enjoy his company so far and, I dunno, he’s so easy to be around.