DW Community Catch-up Thread
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@MissDre four hours isn’t too awful but I know it’s not great. I dated a guy 3 hours away and it was just too much because he just wasn’t as into it as I was and willing to travel to make it work. It sounds like your guy is more willing to do so!
Hold onto the butterfly feeling, it’s the best 🙂
Yeah, like I said it’s not the distance. I would have no problem jumping in the car and driving 4 hours to spend a weekend with him, if that were possible… It’s the work schedule that makes it hard. From my updated nickname for him, I’m sure you can guess what he does for a living. Which means he’s basically never home.
@cleopatra I hope you feel better soon! Sore throats are the worst!
@MissDre I’m so happy for you! The distance sucks…but on the plus side if things get serious you would get to fly places for free on weekends and such.How was everyone’s weekend? I spent Friday, Sunday, and Monday doing stuff with my FWB.
And I have 90 days until my trip to Iceland! I’m so excited but also a tad anxious because I’ve never flown internationally or gone on vacation alone.
@kare that so exciting about your vacation! I’ve only solo vacationed once and it was domestically (Boston) and it was great for the first 3-4 days but after that I was ready to go home. I don’t know if it’s my personality or living alone for the last 10 years but after the first few days I was ready to hang out with someone lol. That said, it was still a blast and I hope you have a great time in Iceland!
@MissDre yes that line of work has to make things kinda tough! But it does sound like he’s very interested and is making sure you know he’s interested, so I think that’s positive. Just make the best of the time you have together.Let’s see, the weekend…. Worked Friday night but had a great crew that night so it was fun. Saturday I went to crossfit and then took my little sister to see a movie because it was pouring rain and we had a great time and ate too much popcorn! Sunday I worked again but it wasn’t too bad because again, great crew that made the time go fast. Bought myself a new little black dress because I have a date I’m actually excited about later this week(!)
And yesterday I got a lot done around the house and then met up with about a dozen friends to watch the fireworks and had a great time. I’ve gone two weeks without alcohol or much carbs so after having two beers last night I have a Fourth of July hangover lol. But it was worth it. Back on track today!
Dating life update: I really like the guy I’m dating. We’ve now been on enough dates that I care and I’m starting to feel the anxiety of not knowing if it’ll actually go anywhere set in. Yay for dating someone I’m totally diggin’! BAH for the overthinking that comes along with the hope of new beginnings.
My parents are in town this weekend, so nothing planned for this weekend. (I feel insane because not having plans with him for a weekend makes me anxious, even though it’s not a big deal to go a weekend without seeing him.)
Fun Chicago dates we’ve had so far: fireworks, zoo, farmer’s market, Girl & the Goat, rooftop drinks out, rooftop drinks on his roof, river walk drinks/food that made us both feel ill (ha).
Fun Chicago dates we’ve talked about doing soon: kayaking in the lake, Oak Park biking tour, Adler After Dark, ALL THE FESTS. 😀
We met in May, so, obviously this is still quite new, but I’m having a lot of fun getting to know him. I haven’t told a lot of people about him yet since we haven’t talked about exclusivity and if this turns into another disappointment, I don’t want everyone knowing… but I keep telling the people who know about him that it just feels easy. On Friday over dinner, he told me that’s how he feels being around me. So. Aw. That was good to know/hear! Still can’t quite shake the feeling that it’s going to fall apart before it ever really takes off, but for now, trying to just have fun with it.
So glad Copa and missDre have guys that are making them feel swoony 🙂 Long distance is so hard, I don’t think I could ever do it again. But with a strong connection I could totally see it being worth it!
I realized I’m actually not ready to date. Finally flipped out at the guy that broke up with me a few weeks ago because he keeps texting me every few days random things, sometimes apologizing for reaching out. I told him I didn’t know if he felt guilty, or misses me, or wanted to be friends, but generally if you suddenly realize you aren’t as into someone as you thought you were you don’t want to text them weeks after you’ve ended things. If he hadn’t have specifically told me he didn’t want to be friends when we broke up I would have maybe felt differently.
I don’t like feeling like it’s no contact now, but I like even less wondering if he’s reaching out because he misses me and wants to work things out (when I know that’s not it). Or that he’ll just suddenly realize he doesn’t want o be friends either and stop texting too and I’ll feel stupid for still being responsive to him and friendly. Either way, can’t really move on until I’m over it and not going to be over it until we don’t talk. Ugh.
@kmtthat, that’s really not fair of him to keep on reaching out. Hopefully he’ll stop now and you can move on.
@kmtthat If he keeps reaching out, it might be worth it to block his number. And if you run into him since you have mutual friends just act like you have no idea why your phone isn’t receiving messages.
My coworker texted me last night to make plans for Friday. Usually we are more of a last minute, late night hookup thing so we will see how actual plans go. I do have to work during part of the time we are hanging out though. But he does the same job as me (completely different team and reporting structure though) so he gets it.
Great to hear some of you are enjoying and revelling in your new dating situations!
@kmtthat I totally get your frustration. It really is unfair of him to keep contacting you and apologizing and trying to keep some connection going. My ex did that, I told him I wanted space and then he would send me a text and things would snowball from there. Looking back it made me angry at him for not respecting my wished, but also angry at myself for getting sucked into it. So do yourself a huge favour and cut all contact, block, delete whatever. It’ll help keep the noise down on his side.
I am into day two of my strep throat recovery and feeling fine! Gonna attempt a run today. Looking forward to going back to work, but also not because I know i probably won’t have anything to do. My supervisor went on an early vacation last week for the long weekend and I had NOTHING to do. So I am going to talk with him about giving me tasks when he goes away because I can’t stand doing nothing.
Well I’ve just been thrown for a loop… Pilot Jones texts me yesterday to tell me he’s been offered a job in the middle east. I didn’t really say much… I mean, what can I say?
Today he texts me to tell me his day is crazy. That he’s flying to the middle east tonight to check things out for this job offer. So I asked if this means he would have to move there and he said yes. Then he just said he knows this affects us and he hasn’t made any decisions yet.
Well… what can I say? We’ve only been together for 2 months. I definitely don’t want him to go but I have no right to an opinion. I just said Ok, good luck. Hope you have a good trip.
Not really sure what else is left to say or do… If he decides to take the job I guess that means we have to break up?
