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  • MissDre
    July 8, 2016 at 10:11 am #590719

    Yesterday was a really hard day for me. I had to try so hard to keep my mouth shut and not send an angry email. Not that I don’t have the right to be angry, it’s just that sending an angry letter accomplishes nothing, other than possibly starting a fight. I think the best thing to do is just keep my mouth shut and that way I have the option to choose my response when he gets back.

    If he comes back and says “I’m taking the job in Dubai” I can say Ok and just MOA with dignity. No drama.

    If he comes back and says he has decided to turn down the job I can say Ok and tell him that I was hurt not to hear from him while he was gone, and see what his response is.

    And then I can choose whether or not his response is acceptable. I can choose to either DTMF or proceed with caution and see whether he’s better at taking my into consideration in the future.

    It’s just so hard to sit and do nothing in the meantime. Like @Copa said, it makes me anxious to have to wait it out and see.

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    July 8, 2016 at 10:17 am #590721

    good for you, MissDre.. the waiting game is the worst, though.

    Any other big plans for the weekend? IF ANY OF YOU ARE IN CHICAGO>>> COME TO MY PARTY ON SATURDAY! Fried chicken, champagne, brisket. bbq cauliflower for the vegetarians. Peach cobbler. Custard Cornbread. Three pony kegs. Copious amounts of wine

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    Kate
    July 8, 2016 at 10:25 am #590729

    Yeah, that all makes sense, Miss Dre. The problem with sending an angry text is that it completely limits your ability to work things out satisfactorily.

    Not hearing from him until he gets back would be absolutely absurd under the circumstances and probably cause to just end it. A guy who is genuinely attentive and invested in you and the relationship doesn’t have huge lapses in consistency like this.

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    Anonymousse
    July 8, 2016 at 10:26 am #590734

    I’m shocked at what happened last night @kare. I hope you and your family are doing okay.
    OMG, that spread sounds delicious and perfect for summer, @materialsgirl.

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    July 8, 2016 at 10:29 am #590735

    @anonymousse: stop on by if in the Chi! @Copa, @ktfran, @kmentothat all of y’all! AP is coming! and so is the little one

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    July 8, 2016 at 10:40 am #590750

    I want so much to get in on this party, it sounds amazing! Too bad I’m roughly 1000 miles away

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    July 8, 2016 at 10:44 am #590755

    @MissDre I can’t imagine any guy who wanted a relationship ignoring you the entire time he is gone. I would wait to see if he had trouble with wifi access. We had trouble with it on our recent trip. We did get it part of the time but it depended on the hotel. If he is in a hotel where it isn’t working I wouldn’t expect to hear from him. If he has it you should hear from him every day, at least by text.

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    Anonymousse
    July 8, 2016 at 10:45 am #590767

    I wish I could!

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    July 8, 2016 at 11:26 am #590823

    @MissDre I’ve been quiet because I have no advice in this situation and I think everyone has given you really good advice. And I think it shows great maturity and rational thinking to NOT send the angry email. I’m glad you didn’t and as cliché and stupid as it sounds, I’m proud of you for not sending it.

    @MG Your BBQ sounds awesome!


    @Kare
    I’m so sorry about whats going on. I can’t even watch the news today.

    As for me, my mom’s best friend died very unexpectedly yesterday. She was like a second mother to me and I’m absolutely heartbroken. I think I cried more last night than I have in ten years. She was a kind and gentle soul who would do anything for anyone, and she died far too young. She loved three things as much as her family – black coffee, a cigarette (even though she quit smoking years ago she would sneak one occasionally, including on Thanksgiving at my house) and cheesecake. So if you have time today and enjoy any of those things, if you wouldn’t mind, have one for my second mom.

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    kare
    July 8, 2016 at 11:27 am #590828

    Thanks @Anonymousse. So far I know my friend and her boyfriend are safe. He was working at the protest and was at the building where one of the shootings occurred. I’m working from home today because we were advised not to go into work unless absolutely necessary. However I still live in the heart of downtown so still trying to be careful. So far two sweeps of the city have turned up no explosives. I’m hoping the threat of IEDs allover the city was false. My brother is also under watch because anything like this triggers his PTSD, and he usually goes on a drug binge to cope. Unfortunately this is just one of many tragedies that keeps occurring across the globe.

    I’m really glad I’m leaving the city to stay with my coworker tonight. He told me to come over earlier if I need to since I just feel on edge. My parents are also returning from vacation early. I think my mom is worried about her friends and their families, but she’s not able to get cellphone reception.

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    kare
    July 8, 2016 at 11:29 am #590835

    @veritek I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

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    July 8, 2016 at 11:37 am #590837

    Thank you Kare, I’ll be thinking of you, your brother and your family and friends.

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