Eh, I’d rather not focus on why/what happened because I’ll drive myself nuts wonder what’s wrong with me. As a general rule, though, I don’t think the reason someone doesn’t want to date me matters. It only matters to me that they don’t want to be with me.

He’s a Republican and I was actually wondering about whether we’d be compatible longer term myself — I’m not quite sure our values were enough in alignment for a future but it seemed premature to call it off myself. Pretty sure he was horrified by my pro-choice stance, though. Ha.

ALSO – even though I just said I don’t want to focus on why (heh), my first thought was that there is an ex in the picture (based on a conversation we had awhile ago). Which I want nothing to do with. But really trying not to focus on what went wrong or what I was lacking or whatever.

No, I really can’t think of anything he could say or do that would justify disappearing for 5 days, even if everything he said about the job in Dubai was true. It’s just so fucking disrespectful.

I dunno. When I think about it… I do kind of think the trip to Dubai was real. But maybe like Wendy said, I was just a distraction to him and when something else came up he bailed.

I did end up texting him this weekend. In the middle of the night Saturday. I said I was worried that I hadn’t heard from him and that I was confused because I have no idea what’s happening.

The iMessages didn’t go through… after failing to send they were automatically resent as SMS. The only time that ever happens is when he’s flying and has no reception (and remember, I have concrete, tangible proof that he was always flying whenever he said he was). So that’s why I tend to believe that the trip was real. If he was actually in North America he would not be flying in the middle of the night so the iMessages should have gone through.

Not that it matters. I’m just over analyzing everything. I guess it makes me feel slightly better to believe that the job offer was real and he just couldn’t handle breaking up with me like a decent person, rather than believing that he’s a sociopath and everything about the last two months was a lie.

No. It’s 100% a dick move, even if he’s having some genuinely internal conflict about whether to take the job or not. He’s a douche.

From what little I know of him/the situation, I’d be inclined to believe the Middle East thing is real, @MissDre — though mostly because I think it’d be fairly bonkers to make up an international trip/job offer to ghost someone who already lives a distance away from you. How he handled everything else was shitty.

The one guy to totally ghost me after a few months of dating was a little less than two years ago, not long after I moved here. We live in the same neighborhood and I run into him from time to time. The first time we ran into each other, it’d been a few months and I was over it, would have said hello and continued with my day, but he pretended he didn’t see me. We don’t have run-ins often, but because he chooses not to acknowledge my existence, it’s uncomfortable when we do. And every time, I think to myself, “THIS. This is why you break up with someone, even if it’s just through text, ESPECIALLY when you live just blocks from one another.”

I got the text message when I was getting ready for work this morning and was trying not to cry as I put my mascara on. So pitiful.

On the bright side, I just moved into a new apartment this weekend (which Guy I Was Dating enthusiastically offered to help me move into just days ago) and I’m excited about that. I was in my last place for less than two years and didn’t love it. (The layout was odd and it was an inefficient use of space with lots of dead space that I could never figure out what to do with.) The new place is old but charming and I’m so excited to make it my own in the upcoming weeks, I feel like it has a lot of potential. It’s also pet friendly so I think I’m going to foster a dog soon. Good distractions from The Sads coming my way!