DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I think I sort of had a foursome over the weekend? I’m not sure what the qualifiers are for a threesome or foursome. Either way it was fun. Although probably not the best thing to do with a coworker…
My FWB and I are still having fun, and it’s been almost a year. It’s just easy – we’re both honest and treat each other with respect.
I’ve been on bumble but there don’t seem to be many guys on it. I might get back on Tinder. I don’t need more guys in the mix at the moment since I’m seeing 4 on a semi-regular basis, but I’m tempted to use it to find a buddy for Pokémon Go.
Oh good, I’ve got just over a month until mine. Saying it’s going to be the 11th anniversary of our first date makes me feel old.
@anonymousse congrats!
@ktfran and congrats to you too! That means this thread is approaching it’s birthday too!
@Kare your life fascinates me in a good way. Also, you can use bumble to match with other women for friendships too. I haven’t tried it but I might look into it.I mentioned yesterday that I had a great date Monday night and I have another one tonight with the same guy. He asked me out again yesterday and came up with a suggestion for a local pizza place and brewery so I’m looking forward to it!
And next week I’m doing a wine and paint night with my firefighter friend. So nice things are happening.
@ktfran you’re our success story!
So most of you guys with first date anniversaries are summer loves that lasted. Yay! I’m always glad for the perspective you all bring to the thread. 🙂
@veritek I hope you have fun on your date! And the wine and paint night sounds awesome. I have that on my date idea list but haven’t gotten around to it yet.
I’m working at midnight tonight and not looking forward to it. Hopefully my customer call doesn’t last too long. I found out on Monday that the benign lump I have in my breast is growing, which is why it’s been hurting so much lately. I feel like my productivity has dropped because I’m just sitting at my desk in pain for most of the day. I’m trying not to take ibuprofen because I get rebound headaches when I take it more than a couple of times a week. So let me know if you guys have any boob pain remedies!
Awesome @ktfran. The first year is the best. And thanks @kare. I don’t pretend to have all the answers, but I like to be able to lend my perspective.
@anonymousse, things are going well! We’ve got a really happy, easy baby and I know how lucky I am! The only major complaint is I wish he’d sleep longer stretches at night. Hopefully that comes soon!going to tag onto the “summer loves that lasted” anniversary train; I just celebrated my 1 year with my SO. I know that doesn’t seem like much time to most people in LTRs, but I’d literally never dated anyone exclusively for more than 2 months before.
So I’m feeling better about things and back on Tinder already. I know I’ve already said this in this thread, but I like Tinder.
So awhile ago (December!) when I was out with some friends, one of them, who does not have social media, was playing around on my dating apps. I was under the impression that these apps don’t match you with anyone you are Facebook friends with, but one of the guys she right-swiped and (I) matched with is an acquaintance of mine from college. She didn’t know this and started chatting with him, then eventually held up my phone to show me the cute guy “we” were talking to. So we texted him that night and I told him he’d been talking to my friend (which I don’t think he necessarily believed?). In any case, we’ve been trying to coordinate going out together since December and haven’t been able to, but we’re going out to brunch this weekend. I’m not sure if either of us is interested in the other. We’ve lived in the same city twice: in college (he was an acquaintance’s long-term, serious college boyfriend) and when I was in grad school (at which point I had a long-term, serious boyfriend). We’ve never been single in the same city at the same time, so I’ve never really paused to think of him as a romantic option. I’m curious to see what brunch will be like. If nothing else I’m pumped to have reconnect with an old friend since the past 6 months or so, the closest friends I’ve made in this city have moved away.
Raising my hand as someone else who loves hearing about everyone’s anniversaries!!
veritek: how was the pizza date? You definitely have some fun things planned 🙂
kare: No real suggestions just sympathy. Are they recommending removing it soon? And maybe try hot or cold packs to see if they help?
Copa: Ohhhh I would never let my friends run my Tinder!! Especially as most of them are married and would swipe right on like 50% of people “oh he’s sort of cute!” even though in reality they in a million years would never have swiped right for that person for themselves. It’s fun when it’s just theoretical! But interesting that it may work out for at least a nice brunch for you.
My update…had a very nice first date last night.Went for sushi then a bar afterwards for a drink. Really light, easy conversation, a lot of big laughs. Flirty but no kiss (I get nervy about that anyway) and we talked about everything from work, families, our 5 year plans, to favorite video games. He was pretty clear he’s looking for a real connection with someone and a gf versus something casual which is great…but my brain is like “the last one was super adamant about that too before he flipped a switch.” He was already asking for the next date by the end of this one, so we agreed to meet up Sunday. Part of me is like oh, then it will be another date and then a few more ad we’re dating and is it too soon?? Just trying to be in the moment. I still have another date Saturday with a different guy. I’ve never dated more than one person at a time (ever) so I’m wondering if it will help me stay objective and less attached. Anyway been smiling a lot today and laughing for no reason so riding that high of feelings 🙂
Thanks for asking kmtthat! I’m glad you had a nice date!
My date was nice. We went to a locally famous pizza place and shared some pizza and then to a local microbrewery for a drink. He’s nice. I’m not sure how I feel about him. I’m not feeling butterflies or too much excitement. I don’t know if it’s general anxiety or I’m just not into him. He offered to come to my town for another date but I may wait a week or so before I take him up on it. It’s been a trying week since last Thursday and I’m just a little overwhelmed.
After the painting night with the firefighter next week I might take some space from him too. I was okay with being friends for a while but now I don’t know if I am. He kissed me on the cheek last week after we met up for dinner and drinks and I was like wtf? I don’t know if that’s a thing he does with all his female friends or if that was him making some sort of move? I don’t know. He’s gotten increasingly more physical over the months we’ve known each other (more hugs, spontaneous hugs or leaning his head on my shoulder during the play we went to, the cheek kiss, etc. But I’m not usually this “touchy” with my male friends) I like him, I’d date him if he wanted to. But I’m not a mind reader and I’ve been told on here before that if I have to ask then I already know the answer. If he wants to date me, I guess he’ll step up. But for now he hasn’t and I just probably need some space.
Veritek…I think you should stop thinking about it, and just go with it. He sounds nice, and like you have fun together. What’s a little affection between friends, eh?
Kare…how do you think you sort of had a foursome? Lol. You need to enlighten us with more details!
I haven’t personally used this, and I have no idea if it would help with your pain (although turmeric is really good for pain and inflammation, and I have used that) but I have a friend who takes this and told me all about it a few months ago. It’s at natural food/health stores.https://www.amazon.com/New-Chapter-Zyflamend-Vegetarian-Capsules/dp/B007438L4S
Lianne, that’s awesome you have an easy baby!
My second is pretty easy as well, lately not with nighttime sleeping though.
@anonymousse I get what you’re saying but I typically am not a super physically affectionate person and don’t typically have that kind of physical affection with my male friends. Usually only romantic partners (like the head on the shoulder and the frequent side hugs and the kiss on the cheek). So I guess it makes me a little uncomfortable since I thought we were just friends.
I don’t want to stop hanging out with him completely, Just need a little space.
