DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Whenever I’ve been in a meetup group they’ve usually been pretty good about making sure the women aren’t harrased through the message feature or cold-emailed or anything like that really. Men who violate it are immediately deleted. Might be worth getting clarification on the group policies from the organisers and if you don’t feel 100% safe or they dismiss you I’d find a new group.
Same with my hiking Meetup group…I’d bring it up to one of the organizers. If someone gets repeatedly messaged or harrassed, then the harasser is kicked out of the group.
I have been using meetup for quite a while now, and recently the hiking ones. I have not had any issues what so ever, but this past weekend I was talking with someone in the group who mentioned a friend of hers who had this issue! It seems to be a growing issue with meetups, and so unfortunate 🙁 There are a lot of groups and people out there for the right reasons, so it sucks when this happens and discourages some people.
Weird thing happened though at the past hike, we had a total stranger just walk in and pretend like he was apart of the meetup. We only had 7 of us signed up, one person backed out so 6 at the morning of the hike. We all knew each other as well so familiar enough. We get to the trail head and are waiting for one of the hikers to come back and this guy just walks up says hi, sorry for missing us at the carpool. We ask if he is here for the meetup, he says yes without hesitation and we are just okay guess there was someone we missed! As we talk with him throughout the day we ask him more questions and start thinking that he was supposed to be with another hiking group that is also doing the same trail. Then we finish the hike, go for coffee in Canmore and we continue talking and he then admits oh I wasn`t apart of any meetup, just popped in and joined you. We all nervously laugh and are thinking wtf! You could have just asked to join us if you were alone doing the hike, not make this elaborate story of being with a group etc. So we are now being more vigilant with strangers.
In other news, totally banged a super hot guy from Tinder last night XD Gah! Tall, really fit and muscular and just yummy. First really fit guy I have slept with before, definitely raises the bar that`s for sure! Sounded like he was interested in seeing me again, hopefully, fingers crossed!
@Cleopatra_30 This is so creepy.. it’s a pitty these meet up groups have become like this.
And the meet up guys I mention earlier, they aren’t exactly harrassing me, but it is a bit off putting when you see what most guys’ main goal of attending these meet ups is. Ironically, the one dude who comes the closest to “harrassment” is actually the founder and organiser of the meet up.. so I can’t complain to the organiser about himself I guess.
Although I normally get along way better with guys, because of this I have become closer friends with the women in the meet up groups. I mean I get people make friends and get close and things can happen, this is only natural, but as I said you can see most of them aren’t even interested in the activity at hand..
Still, it’s overall a great way to meet lovely people. Meanwhile my track record of hitting it off with amazing guys who end up being actually engaged continues.. At 24, it is weird meeting so many people my age who are engaged/married. I guess that’s the main advantage of dating sites, you know everyone you meet will (hopefully) be single and looking for the same thing as you.
@eve Honestly I would call him out, so if you end up being excluded from the hiking group or whatnot, his behavior, especially at the “authority” level where he is the organizer is not good at all! I would hate for other women in the future to be harassed.
I am 25 and the youngest in the group I hike with, most are late twenties early thirties, and NONE of them are taken! So funny how that happens. But that means we are all kind of at the same stage in life, working, living and being single 😛
So ends up oneof the Tinder guys I met up with for the second time this past Friday is cuckoo for cocoa puffs!
After watching his scrimmage hockey game and coming back to his place for a decent shag, we ordered some pizza at the wee hours of the morning and then he proceeded to tell me about all the conspiracy theories he believes in (ie. Princess Diana was assassinated by the Royal family, Sep 11 was organized by the government, the Mayans are the result of alien-humanoid breeding, light bulbs and electricity were around during Ancient times, there is a 13,000 year old alien satellite orbiting earth).The list goes on. I was too scared and angry to ask if he believed in evolution because then I would have just left him at 4AM, probably should have walked out the door but it was so late and didn’t want to drive home tired.
Anyways I listened to his wild accusations and talked back a bit saying they were ridiculous an unfounded by professionals alike. Then he goes on to tell me he has an IQ of 160, and would not believe in these theories if he didn’t think they were legitimate. THEN he told me he has has experienced in the past the ability to touch objects of someones personal importance or shake hands with someone and get glimpses into their past, or future. He can also look at structures or mechanical objects and be able to see them broken down and understand how they work, he has had these experiences since he was 12. He also has a nack for reading people, he read me pretty well for only meeting me twice and not sharing much of myself. So the last things, I can probably see how they can be true, difficult to fake that, however he is still a little nuts in my eyes and I do not think I will be seeing any time soon. We clash enough personality wise after 2 meet ups, that this will probably not be healthy for either of us. Gah…where are the normal men….
What would you guys do if you met a man who seems really sweet (i.e. kind, respectful, all the things you’d think should be standard but seem like such rare finds in dating these days), who has the same life goals as you, is very attractive, but seems a bit insecure and just talks too damn much?
Keep feelin him out? Hint that he should just be quiet and enjoy the silence for once? Say fuck this and MOA?
If you usually go for the cool, confident, silent types, I’d say keep feeling out this guy because it might be good to date against type.
@Cleo holy crap. Better to find that out sooner than later, but that’s still unsettling. I just don’t argue with conspiracy theorists and just nod along like I’ve never heard of the events they are referencing. And of course these people seriously believe I’ve gone through life without hearing of Princess Diana or JFK.
@Kare yep, I’m definitely used to the cool and quiet types.
With this dude, I think he’s definitely a sweetheart.
But he goes off on these philosophical monologues and I’m not quite sure if they’re authentic and he’s just sharing his feelings with me, or if all this shit is rehearsed in his head and he’s trying to sound impressive, or if he’s just looking for anybody to listen to him while he works out his thoughts.
@kare, He says he doesn’t like to boast about his intelligence as he knows it makes people uncomfortable and whatnot, yet the whole time that night he was very condescending towards me and was definitely okay with boasting about. He treated me like I didn’t know anything, and also asked if I knew who Princess Di was, and Nicholas Telsa… *eye roll*
Ugh. I hooked up with an old flame Thursday. He moved, so we sext occasionally and see each other when he’s in the city, but it’s just a physical thing. We had fun, but he spent about 30 minutes talking about how much he wants to marry me and how he’s still in love with me. I was trying to figure out a way to say “can we not have this discussion and just have sex?”…but couldn’t think of a way to do that so I just nodded along. The sex was phenomenal though, so eh.
Things are still great with my FWB. We’ve both been busy with work, but we still see each other a couple of times a week or so.
Oh, and I got on OK Cupid, but haven’t had any dates yet. I’ve been working late almost every day and just don’t have the energy. Plus I have vacation next week!
