All the best with everything, @veritek! Congrats with CrossFit prom!

I just came back from a week vacation in Portugal for a destination wedding and feel amazing/reflective (also hungover). Yes, it was quite a destination, but the groom’s side is from Scotland and he has family in Portugal. My friend, the bride, is from Canada. Eight of us from high school made it out there. The groom moved to Canada and while there’s a lot of seriousness, still, it’s romantic moving for love (with the right considerations etc.).

It was just so refreshing spending days with friends again. It made me realize I want to be more interested and interesting. I want to get really fit (no, it’s not a be all and end all to insecurity but it will help). So I want to take a break from dating (well, more like swiping desperately). I don’t want to delete apps from phones but maybe that is the best way to stop. I hopefully will mutual fade with a guy I saw a few times before vacation. I liked the attention but I really don’t feel ready to go further.

Also, as a point of interest, basically all the groom’s Scottish friends were coupled off. They met in six-year med school program there and I guess they were all very productive/efficient and married each other (too bad as there were a few good looking Scotsmen!). But all the bride’s friends, male and female, were single, HA. Different cultures I guess?

I’ve pretty much stopped dating entirely for the last few months (and for the foreseeable future; I just have zero interest in it right now), just enjoying increasingly awesome relationship with J, lots of alone time, and friend stuff. Last weekend my ex and I celebrated the first anniversary we’ve had where we were officially divorced. We went to brunch.

I’m lurking and still enjoying reading about everyone else’s exploits 🙂

What, missdre!! Like, IRL, popped back up? What a dink.

What the heck, Miss Dre? What did he even want?! Why do guys do this?

I actually recently had a guy pop up after a month of being MIA. I went on a few dates with him back in August, and all was well, and I last heard from him around Labor Day. He also had started grad school, so I assumed he was just busy with that, or perhaps he met someone else (who knows. I just know I felt like the last time I saw him he wasn’t quite as enthused as he had been before? So I kind of saw the writing on the wall.) Last week, he texts me, saying sorry for being MIA, and could he see me. I said I was busy (I really was), maybe this week. He suddenly is really interested in what I’ve been up to, which is annoying because, where were you the entire month of September?? Then yesterday he texts saying he has finals next week but wants to see me and asks if he can see me tonight. Which is the day I go to a dance class, which I’m not skipping for this dude. I told him I’m free Sunday. I’m not putting up with this kind of behavior. He is not a priority.

I also have a drinks date tomorrow night, which hopefully will go well. The guy seems nice, so we’ll see, I’m not that excited about it at this point!

Other than this, I’m really not excited about any of the prospects I’ve come across online or on apps, and I’m happier just doing my own thing! Once again, it would be nice if something came along though, or if I could just meet someone out in the actual world, while I’m doing all of the fun awesome things. Until then I keep on keepin’ on.

I personally didn’t believe he even had a job overseas… Is it proven that he did? I felt like it was a cover for needing to go dark.

@Kate I really have no idea. Why he would need such an elaborate cover to go dark, I have no clue, since we were already long distance. We were cities apart. He could have just ghosted and I’d never know anything. But whatever. No point in trying to figure out his motives now. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter, because I’m doing my best to move on.