JCrew doesn’t carry the dress anymore. It’s similar to this, only the front and back are Vs. Not halter. And the waist doesn’t have a distinct band like this one. But it is fitted.

https://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/weddingsandparties/LACE/PRDOVR~E6945/E6945.jsp

I don’t have shoes yet. I’m shopping tomorrow. I have nothing comfortable at home to wear 🙁 Shoe shopping tomorrow.

@Kate, just to reassure from a few posts up, I absolutely know not to get involved with him – at least not for a long time! We’re just friends and I’ve glad we reconnected but I’m not looking for anything like that with him right now. That said, though, if in a couple of years we are both still single and were in the right place, for him, I would reconsider my no kids thing. Our connection is that strong, but I totally get that a connection does not necessarily a good match make. 🙂

And I agree on burgundy suede shoes! I’m wearing some right now, actually. I am not in love with the block heel look at the moment (I feel like it’s clunky) but depending on the style they could work with that dress.

Or “black cherry.”

So, I’ve also been lurking. I also want to point out that someone saying they don’t want to date someone who is divorced doesn’t mean they are saying divorce is bad (I also don’t think it’s bad to go into a marriage not assuming it’ll last forever — if I get married, I’d like for it too, but I am aware it doesn’t always, and I’d survive that). But they are saying that’s not what they are looking for at that time. It’s similar to saying you have other types of preferences. Not saying people who don’t fit that are bad, but you’re looking for something specific. I can see how someone might think it’s naive or whatever to say that they want someone who hasn’t been married, but a lot of people like the feeling that their partner hasn’t promised “forever” to someone else and that they are experiencing all the firsts of marriage together. As several people have said, preferences change over time.

I would be fine with dating someone who is divorced, but since most divorced men I have met have kids, I tend to be cautious about pursuing someone who is. (Plus, there’s still not a TON of divorced people in the age group I’ve been dating prior to now.) I think whenever someone withholds information about themselves that is commonly shared in order to make people give them a chance rubs some people the wrong way. I get it and it’s not wrong, but a lot of people think that is a form of manipulation. I dated a guy who didn’t tell me he had a child until we’d been seeing each other for a bit, and it bothered me because it took away my autonomy to decide whether to go on multiple dates with someone with a kid (I would have declined) and it made me wonder what else he was withholding about himself to make himself look better.

Those are FUN!

Ooh, I love those pumps!