DW Community Catch-up Thread
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My friend hired a dating coach. She lives in the midwest. The dating coach is in NY. They face timed, or set up video conferences, or something. The coach helped with her profile, and just talked to her in general kind of like a therapist would. She has had great success and is getting married next year. It might be something to consider?
Yes, WENDY! Not sure if she does it anymore, but she hugely improved my profile, I am happily married, blah blah. Yes of course it’s worth it 🙂
KTFRAN!!!!! That is amazing! I love the engagement earrings and YES. YES. YES. YES 1000x’s i support eloping.
Also, we had a dinner party last night and all three of us couples got married at the courthouse. We had just been to a wedding reception the night before and everyone was like “thank god we didn’t have a wedding!”
Courthouse for the win
just not the city of chicago. unless you like, totally can’t wait.
Congrats KT!!!!
If they have screws, just never take them off. Clean with a small brush + white vinegar and Dawn while still in your ears. I’ve had mine in for 4 years (his first Christmas gift), and no issues. No loosening or anything.
Congrats again KTfran, so glad we’ve been along for the ride since the beginning!
@Dre I had Wendy help with my profile about 3 years ago for Match.com . I haven’t had great success but I can’t say that’s because of anything Wendy caused, if anything she improved it greatly. It’s still a good profile and I do think it attracts a bit better pool of guys than it was before, I’m just disillusioned with that site right now and haven’t used it for a while.
I totally ghosted a guy last week and feel no remorse. We were supposed to have a date and right after I got off work I say a man get hit by a car and I pulled over and sat with him until the ambulance came (older guy, probably in his 70s, I think he’s gonna be okay but it was really scary and he was covered in blood from a broken nose and teeth). I was really shaken up so I called to cancel the date and the guy was really pissed about it and how last minute it was. (I just saw the guy get hit by a car and the date was still two hours away, but yeah I guess it was short notice?) So he sent me a few texts sort of harassing me about rescheduling so I just blocked him. He had zero understanding about the whole situation and I’m not gonna deal with that.
@ktfran .. congratulations on engagement! 🙂 I know I don’t really know anyone here but I’m always really happy for news like this.. and this dating thread will be sort of symbolic toof your entire future relationship haha 🙂
I am loviiiing the engagement earrings idea, first time I’ve heard of it. But I am so skilled at losing stuff that I wouldn’t trust myself to not lose even an elephant..
Also .. “don’t worry about if he likes you. Figure out if you like him ” – that’s brilliant advice and that’s how I usually approach dates, at least I try to. I just got excited and wayyyy ahead of myself about finally meeting someone who seems semi-decent at least the first 2-3 times I’ve met him.
@Portia .. are you saying this seems like a red flag to you? Now I’m seriously over analysing everything 😐@Copa .. I still don’t accept ghosting as something normal after months of dating and texting. I find it a pretty cowardly thing for a guy you’ve been seeing for 3-4 months to do and it just means you dodged a bullet. Because I assume you don’t want to date someone who is too scared / not bothered to communicate a “break-up” with you (especially after months of dating and intense texting/calling etc ) .. I mean it’s not like it’s been one or two dates. I admit I have also ghosted guys after one date (or even before first date…) and I know it’s not great, but after more dates I definitely write a short message saying I am not interested in seeing him. That’s if the guy is nice. If he’s an douche I don’t bother. Haha 😛
I love how good I am at giving advice and sh*t at following my own advice.
Congratulations Ktfran!!! That’s awesome!! 😀
Copa, what makes you think he’s ghosting? That really does suck, even though you were casual. After 2-3 months, I’d at least want some sort of break up email/call/etc.
Congrats, KTFran!!! 🙂 Engagement earrings sound lovely! And, I’d elope if I were engaged!
@Moneypenny – Starting last week, I noticed a decline in communication frequency. He said work got crazy (which I believe knowing what company he works for and his role there), but this is the excuse I’ve gotten from other guys riiiight before they fade out. (I suppose I’ve only been legitimately ghosted with no slow fade once, a couple years ago after a couple months of dating.) So, it may be premature to worry, but it’s so familiar that I can’t help but think, “Yep. Here we go again!” Whatever you wanna call it, after a few months of daily contact and regular dates (to the extent possible with his travel schedule), I think a “sorry, this isn’t working for me” text or call is warranted. Time to just wait and see I suppose!
@veritek – Normally I think it’s rude to ghost someone even after just one date (because of how easy it is to send a text), but I think borderline-harassment like what you experienced is a good reason to break that rule. I’ve canceled a couple dates before for legitimate reasons and had a couple dates canceled/rescheduled on me, so if a person is flipping out over one canceled date, consider that a bullet dodged.
Ktfran, that’s a great story you shared on the main page! 😀
Copa, I totally know that feeling. It’s hard to put past negative experience aside and just take people at their word. I’ve totally been there! For your sake, I hope he’s not ghosting. And if he is? Well, that’s a cowardly way to end things, and I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that anyway. Pshh!
