DW Community Catch-up Thread
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@anonymousse yep, that’s the friend. Fortunately they aren’t married, and I highly doubt he’s going to fight her on custody. It sucks that things got to the point that they are at now, but I think it’s finally enough for her to leave. Plus my god daughter is still pretty young, and she hasn’t asked for her dad once since he kicked them out.
@TheLadyE your update is awesome! I’m glad you’re having fun!My FWB has been busy this week since he’s a precinct chair, and then the huge fetish event he hosts is this weekend. But I get to go for free, and I get to bring a date. So yayyy!
It was so much fun!!! There were burlesque performers, a contortionist, a couple that does intricate rope bondage, and some other acts. Also, there was a torture wheel where people could spin for a variety of “punishments”. And of course there were vendors selling their goods. There were a lot of interesting outfits. My FWB wore a thong and boots. Which I enjoyed immensely.
Sounds like fun!
Kare, I took a leaf out of your book and slept with a coworker. We don’t work directly together so it’s fine. I’ve always liked him, but just platonically cause I’ve only known him as together with his long-term girlfriend. Well, I saw him at a party, he told me he broke up with her for cheating on him, then we ended up talking until 7 in the morning and sleeping together. It was fun. He’s obviously not looking for a relationship right now, but I wouldn’t mind a FWB thing with him. Except I never know how to turn a hookup into a FWB situation. We’ll see what happens.
I feel like most FWB situations develop naturally. If you already have a rapport then have a good hookup, usually it just kind of leads to a FWB thing. Just play it by ear!
My coworker got ridiculously wasted at a hockey game and crashed at my place. Then confessed some things, and it’s been a bit awkward since then. But that’s why he’s my second tier guy.
Coincidental how there are co-worker posts now… I have developed a teensy crush on a co-worker, but I think it is because he is unattainable given the workplace (also I’m not really meeting any new guys right now). We don’t work in the same practice area but our offices are physically close together. Also it’s a small workplace so everyone is up in everyone’s biz. But we are the same “level” position. I don’t think he likes me that way anyway. It’s just interesting that he would not have caught my eye on the street, but after spending so much time with him that it’s his personality and everything that makes him cuter.
Omg Kare that sounds like SO much fun! I don’t know why I thought you lived in a smaller area/city – I wonder if there’s a way to find out about cool events like this near me? My husband and I went to an awesome sex club in Portland when we were visiting, but didn’t end up meeting many others or fooling around with anyone else because we just weren’t really sure how to approach people. Still fun though! But live on the opposite coast so prob won’t be returning anytime soon. Also I was not pregnant then so I fit a little easier into lingerie/costumes LOL.
@K I’m just a little frustrated. I FINALLY met somebody that I’m REALLY excited about for the first time since that shit show with Pilot Jones. Older man (well, older for me – he’s 38), seems like he’s got his shit together, an academic, career on track, funny, respectful.
I’ve been really up front with him about what I’m looking for (i.e. committed relationship, marriage, children, partnership, etc). We’re just getting to know each other, this is all brand new, but I feel like he’s taking me seriously and would ideally like a relationship as well. And I feel that he’s just as excited about me as I am about him.
Sounds great, right? Worth exploring? Worth getting to know each other and seeing where things go?
Well, turns out he’s only here temporarily. Another few months, but where his work takes him after that is up in the air. I’ve asked him if staying here was something he would want or could picture for himself. And he said he yes, he’d love to stay here because all of his family is here. But, there aren’t many opportunities in his field. It seems like his work is very specialized, so he’d likely end up somewhere in the US or Europe.
I asked him where that puts us for now, and he just said that he wants to keep seeing me and see where this goes, regardless of what we may encounter later.
So — now I’m wondering if I should even bother continuing to get to know him. I don’t want to waste time on relationships that go nowhere, nor do I want to end up attached to someone after however many months of dating just for them to leave the country (and then there will be the predictable hurt and recovery time). I don’t really have the kind of personality that will allow me to keep things casual and continue to see other people.
But then I think of stories like Wendy and Drew, how they started out long distance, and look at what a great thing came out of it.
I’m getting ahead of myself, I know. We’ve only been seeing each other a short time and are just getting to know each other. It’s just fucking annoying that OF COURSE I end up liking the guy who’s future is uncertain.
Evan Marc Katz says “Don’t Try to Read the Last Page of the Book Before You Read the Book” which I think is fantastic advice but seems difficult for me to follow 😐
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