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I’m sure I sway toward the more wholesome side of the spectrum, but I think the whole “party drug” reputation is part of the reason I have no desire to date someone who does cocaine. My partying days are mostly behind me, and I’d like to find someone whose partying days are also mostly behind him. A former friend was hung up on an ex for a VERY long time. She’d tell me stories of the good times they had, which seemed to primarily revolve around partying and drugs, and how she just SAW them having kids together. Maybe I’m a square, but when I hear about/see a man who is still very much embracing his partying days, I do NOT think, “I want to raise children with him.”
AngeJanuary 24, 2017 at 7:07 pm #670635I had a pretty wild youth and would definitely have done alllll the cocaine when I was younger. Alas in Australia it remains out of reach for your average blue collar worker. Damn the 1%!
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I skew more to the wholesome side, so the only person I know that’s done cocaine is my ex boyfriend, and he would do any drug you put in front of him, so that didn’t come as a shock. By the time I was dating him it was just pot and pills. So I can’t say I’ve ever tried it or had any desire to try it. Wouldn’t want to date anyone that was using it either.
So after an emergency trip to my very sympathetic dermatologist (who had to pull another doctor into the room because she was so baffled) apparently I’m having some sort of really bad allergic reaction on my face, possibly a bug bite. It’s literally a one inch bright red swollen rash directly between my eyebrows at constant itching all over my face. UGH. I told them I’m going to Toronto tomorrow and meeting my bf’s friends and family for the first time and they prescribed me a super strong topical steroid. Sooooo hoping I no longer look like Quasimodo soon…
Also I’m from CA where cocaine was at literally every party kid’s house. Like, I remember being on some dudes yacht while people were doing it and thinking “is this really my life? This isn’t me.” Happy to be a boring drug free nerd.
I had dinner last night in NJ with two co-workers I’ve never met in person – a guy who’s 34 or 35 and a woman who could be as young as 25, 26. He said there was never any coke around when he was in college; she said it was everywhere.
I feel like there are senior people at work who use it daily, but no proof.
Unrelated to the cocaine discussion, my second date last night went very well. Super fun and relaxing and just really enjoy spending time with him. The hours flew by and it felt like a blink. We did have a discussion about the distance (he lives 2 hours away) and our concerns with that. I’ve done long distance that didn’t work out and he’s never done long distance more than about 45 minutes away, so it could be challenging but we both agreed that 2 hours isn’t that bad and to take it one date at a time and see what happens.
He has some potential so I’m very cautiously excited. Date #3 is Saturday and I’m looking forward to it.
@veritek – That’s exciting! I can’t recall — do you live in the burbs somewhere? I’m assuming this is a two-hour drive to see one another. I’ve done LDR that required a drive that was an hour and a half-ish. It was rough during the week (but we still managed to see one another after work sometimes by meeting halfway), but weekends always felt worth it to me. I do think the distance ultimately contributed to that relationship’s demise (not quite as much as his cheating, ha), but never thought it was that bad. I think longer-term consequences would be trickier to figure out, but short-term you can and should just have fun getting to know someone who makes you happy.
@copa Yes I live sort of in the middle of the state and he lives in the southwest corner so it’s a roughly two hour drive, but on pretty decent four lane highways (as opposed to crappy two lane roads that we have tons of in the rural areas).
The only LDR I did would be a stretch to call it an LDR but it was a 3.5 hour drive and I don’t think we wanted the same things and it only lasted a few months with more effort on my part than his.
My date last night and I discussed what we were looking for, and we both want something more serious and less casual and agree that we both feel really comfortable with one another and feel like we’ve connected really well so far. My job becomes more flexible during the summer and fall and I could easily take a day off in the middle of the week or make a three day weekend happen due to all the time I’ll have banked up. I think for now trying to see each other once a week is pretty reasonable considering there’s a nice town exactly halfway between us with lots of things to do, or going to one or the other’s town on a weekend since we don’t work weekends. I don’t know, I want to explore it and see how it goes. Cautious optimism 🙂
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