@Copa, yes he’s made it pretty clear that moving to my city is not in the cards for him. I’ve always said that I would never ever move. But for whatever reason, when he makes jokes about me moving to Europe (he slips in little comments all the time) I feel totally open to that possibility.

Am I ready to pack my bags right away? Of course not. But let’s say in another 12-18 months things are getting serious, I would definitely be open to having a serious discussion with him about me moving there. It doesn’t worry me too much, because his family is here in Canada so we would always come back to visit.

Things have been a little unclear the last few months just because he found out that he was moving not long after we met. And he was hesitant to get into a long distance relationship with an ocean between us, especially since we had only just met. But he told me that he really liked me, and back in December he asked if I would be ok with just continuing to get to know each other for now. And that’s when he asked me to visit him as soon as he gets settled in his new city.

Fast forward to March, he has left the country now. We’re still talking every single day. We text, talk on the phone, video chat, and we’re making plans for my visit (hopefully next month). The other night we were talking and I told him that I want to be his girlfriend. He asked me if I would ever consider moving and I said yes, it’s a possibility. And his reply was “You know, I think long distance just might work with us.”

Cool! I would love, love, love to live abroad again. What a fun adventure.

Happy Monday!

Banjo and I have been spending more and more time together and it’s going great! Friday night we had a work party, and then went to my friend’s karaoke birthday party. We sang some great duets – I Try by Macy Grey and Faith by George Michael. Crowd pleases I must say, haha. We stayed at his Friday night and Saturday we got brunch at a cute place in our neighborhood and then he took me on a hike to some woodsy parts of the city I hadn’t been to before. Then Saturday night we got Thai takeout and had a chill board game night in with my flatmate and then stayed at mine. In the morning I woke up early and got groceries and cooked us breakfast. He had some errands to do after that so he left… but ended up inviting me over later to chill so we went the night together again. It was a really nice weekend. I don’t want to be one of those people who disappears in relationships, but I also have limited free time outside of work and hobbies and I’m finding myself wanting to spend it all with him!

@lucia_la It sounds like you’re having a great time! It’s always nice when you meet someone who you want to spend as much as your free time with as possible. 🙂

@veritek I’d actually consider it an endorsement of someone if a friend had a crush on them once upon a time.

Not much new with me — have been talking to two guys from Tinder, but haven’t met either yet. Was unable to schedule a date with one of them last week between his work travel (AGAIN WITH THE WORK TRAVEL) and I had a visitor in town. Was hoping to meet him this week, but caught a nasty cold yesterday and feel like crap, so we’ll see!

Random question for you guys. How do you know when you’re in love with someone vs like/infatuation?

I was talking to my friend about it today, I asked her when she knew she loved her husband. And she said it was when she started imagining a future with him. And I thought to myself… well I think about a possible future with the dude I like all the time. But it’s not because I love him (not yet anyway) it’s because it’s wishful thinking. I like him a lot, so it’s exciting to imagine what kind of future we could have together if everything works out.

I think about travelling with him. I think about introducing him to my family (I know they would like him). I think about the possibility of moving to Europe to be with him if things get serious. I think about what kind of father he would be (so far I think he’d be a great dad). I think about all the things I like about him, and how the relationship we have makes me feel. But none of those things mean love. It just means things are going well and that I like him a lot.

So… at what point does like become love? How do you know?

(PS I’m not actually stressing over this question – I feel like things are in a good spot with my guy and I’m not looking to rush. I’m just pondering as it’s been quite a while since my last relationship.)

What you’re feeling now is definitely the start to all that.. I knew when I started thinking about a future even further out and I wanted him to be there too. Sometimes it just hits you in weird times. THe other day, he was cooking something in the kitchen, turned to me, and just had a wave of emotion. like, I really love this person. And then there’s those times where he hogs the whole bed and farts.
For me, this second time around, it was really that I respected him.