At least for me, physical attraction is either there or it’s not. I’ve had several guys grow on me before, and I thought they were total babes *after I got to know them*, but that’s limited to guys I’ve met organically, and who I didn’t meet/get to know with the intention of dating. If you met this guy online, maybe give it another date, but I do think that if you’re not there yet, you’re unlikely to get there in one more date.

@veritek33 Yeah, that’s weird. And kinda rude. I was going to take the high road when I left my last job and shake my boss’s hand and thank him for the opportunity. He left early that day without so much as a word to me. Probably shouldn’t have been *too* surprised since the guy barely spoke two words to me after I put in my notice. I do still kinda wish I’d been more candid in my exit interview, but was nervous to do so and so I kept a lot of things to myself. I hope if you take the brutally honest route, you enjoy it. 🙂 I imagine when you hate a job it can be so liberating to say the things you’ve felt for a long time aloud and to people who should hear it.

@Copa, you did the right thing. There’s rarely a good reason to bare all in an exit interview.

@Ver, that’s so bizarre and definitely a good sign that you have moved jobs.

I’m not really sure why I wrote my last post. We met Friday night at MG’s place. He made dinner and we watched a movie. It was a really nice and relaxing night, after we had both been away the last couple weekends. There’s no good way to say it, but “for the record”, I am attracted to him/want to continue seeing him — it might be a growing in attraction/comfort/he’s not my usual type thing.

Yesterday my friend had some people over for a games night because one of our friends was in town. I think it was also for us to meet the host’s new girlfriend, hehe. I felt it was a little early to invite MG to this but it was also a good opportunity to meet my friends at a low-key occasion, so I asked to him come on a no pressure basis and he was happy to. I’ve never brought a guy to see my friends so I was nervous but it was a nice evening so I’m pretty happy.

It’s MG’s birthday next weekend. It’s still early, but I know I want to make some cupcakes. Since he made dinner for me though, I’d love to make dinner for him too. I don’t have my own place, so we could meet up at his, which we’ve been doing, but it’s a little awkward to cook in his kitchen? I was thinking of making chili and then heating it up on his stovetop. But also it’s a crazy week so I don’t know when I have time to do this. Well, we’ll see!

@hfantods So glad to hear! Sometimes it takes a bit to really know. Cupcakes and dinner sound like a good low key idea for celebrating his birthday at this stage 🙂

I think I mentioned doing ziplining for my guys birthday this past weekend, ended up getting cancelled on account of high winds. So got my money back and told him to tell me if he wanted to do something else to replace the ‘gift.’ We ended up killing the extra time taking a walk along the river, as the colors are AMAZING here in Calgary. Such bright yellows! Not quite the same as Ontario fall colors, but still great 🙂 Then we went back to his place and made some tasty red thai curry.

We are co-hosting at his place a friends-giving this upcoming weekend. I am excited as it will be all my buds and lots of awesome food. I feel so adult 😛 Haha He managed to meet most of my friends on Friday as well for my get together, which also went really well! He was a bit quiet, but seemed to fit in when he could for the conversation.

How was your date with AT, @copa?

@ver, sounds lovely! I’m afraid the leaves will fall before they turn red here in Ontario so you aren’t missing much.

Mini update, I kind of did a shitty ask for his birthday, so in the meantime he suggested going out for sushi which I was totally cool with and I was planning on treating him for dinner (plus cupcakes, of course). Then he asked if he could invite his friend and his friend’s girlfriend. This is of course fine and is a good sign, although I’m a little nervous and a bit “woah are we moving too fast” even though I invited him to see my friends first and it will have been six weeks. But do I pay for our half at dinner for his birthday if they can come? Is that emasculating? The obvious answer is no. We’ve be pretty good with alternating but I don’t know what it’s like with other couples/his friends. Agh, totally overthinking!