DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Yes! I’ve been telling people for years I’m not having kids and we still get asked if we’re planning on “getting married and having kids.” Married yes, kids no. “No kids? Are you sure he’s ok with that?” We both want that he’s already had kids. “Well, still time to change your mind” Go eff yourself man.
I had absolutely zero luck with online dating, but to be fair I didn’t really try that hard. I was on tinder and okcupid on and off but I never really found many good options there. I live in a popular tourist destination in central Europe and I found that most people were just passing through. I would get messages like “hey, want to show me around while I’m in town for 2 days?” I actually used to work as a tour guide so no I don’t want to work for free and then never see you again. Thanks but no thanks. One time a French guy messaged me something like “Hi, I found your profile and I decided that you would be a good person to show me and my friend around the city this weekend. What’s your number?” Such a tempting offer!
I’ve been living here for 5 years and I met all of my relationships, flings and hook-ups the old-fashioned way. I did go through long stretches of feeling preeeety single, though.
Hi everyone! Haven’t really chimed in on this thread, but I have kept up with it.
I’m an online dating success story. I met my husband on OKCupid in 2012 and we married in 2016. I’m about to be 36, he is about to be 35 (we were 30 and 29, respectively, when we met), we had both had long-term (and shitty) previous relationships….we met pretty soon for drinks after he sent me a message (a really nice one, one that indicated he had ACTUALLY read my profile) and emailed back and forth quite a bit in between dates. Didn’t really text much until we started dating-dating.
I started online dating in August 2012 and met him right after Hurricane Sandy. Our five-year date-aversary is this Friday, actually. Before I met him, I went on a slew of first dates, and handful of second & third dates, and even had a guy as a booty call.
I never used online dating on a smart phone, though, it was all computer-based. The change in format, the immediacy of it, would make it considerably different today, me thinks. Using only a website made it easier to ignore, not get so wrapped up in.
I’m basically the same as TheRascal. Online dated from 2011-12, didn’t even have a smartphone so it was all online. I probably went out with 12 guys, maybe half of whom I went on more than one date. Two I was really into but they ghosted or faded after 3-4 dates (that has always been a thing). I met my husband after a little over a year of doing online d
…ating on and off.
It wasn’t great back then, but I think not having it constantly there on your phone made it somewhat easier.
The constant connection makes the whole dating realm something crazy. I used to have a high demand job that if you weren’t work related you really didn’t hear from me during my 9-5 and one dude so didn’t get it. I think having those apps at our finger tips is such a catch 22.
@TheHizzy A former friend of mine once told me that she didn’t want to date someone who didn’t have time to text her during the day. And I was like, “Erm. Some people have demanding jobs that don’t lend well to constant text communication…” She didn’t care and “wanted a guy who had time for her.” Our friendship faded about a year ago, but I’m admittedly curious if she’s had success meeting someone. Her relationships didn’t last long, but I always felt a twinge of envy that despite being on the demanding and, um, cray-cray side, she seemed more successful in dating. (I truly don’t know why I felt this because her relationships were all pretty toxic and dramatic.)
That is true, having it on your phone really adds to the anxiety. You can donwnload it or delete it as you want. I donwloaded Tinder yesterday again lol. I’ve been swiping all day.
I actually found an old crush of mine. I met this guy in Grad School a few years ago. I always found him so charming, and he had a girfriend of like a million years. One of those cool girlfriends. But I always sensed that he liked me. I found him on Tinder today and I swiped right and he did too.
Prior to meeeting Mr. Rascal, one gentleman I had been on one date and had a fun makeout session in the park with, was an incessant texter. He came on so strong that I told him I wasn’t interested in seeing him again. I don’t get the constant need for texting; it feels so oppressive/suffocating.
I don’t know if I’m ready to date yet. But I do want to meet other people. I haven’t met anyone new in a long time (not talking only about potential love interests, talking in general). This thread made me curious.
