It’s Banjo and I’s one-year anniversary on Saturday! We got a groupon for a private couples spa package with hot tub, sauna, champagne, etc. so I’m pretty excited for that! Never done anything like that before. Now looking around for a new restaurant to try that’s romantic but not crazy pricey.

Wishing you all good luck in your dating adventures this week!

Happy anniversary, @lucia_la! Your celebratory date sounds like fun. Mind if I third wheel? 😛

@hfantods It’s just dumb. I don’t want to be reminded of his unnecessary existence. Haha. I could tell he found me on Instagram before we’d even met in person because he viewed my stories. I’d just gotten my dog around when we first met, so I was posting a lot of stories at the time. I stopped as the novelty of having a puppy wore off, and assumed he stopped looking at my page when he told me he wasn’t emotionally where he should be. Nope! He’s still around behind the scenes. Like, go be unemotional somewhere else, sir!

Thanks guys!

@TheLadyE congrats! That’s awesome! I’m in an improv comedy group and we do shows about every every month and it’s so much fun. Performing is a great hobby to have and a great way to meet new people as well!

I am 4 weeks out. I have been allowed to walk, bike, lateral step, hip drops, nothing over 10# and that’s about it. No bending, twisting, lifting just mostly rolling here and rolling there in bed. I was just allowed to raise my pelvis off the floor a couples inches last week for an exercise. EXCITING!

At my 6 week I’ll get cleared for more activities but not 100%. It’s about 3-4 months for a recovery for the disk. So I’m looking at a Christmas gift of “Hey go back and lift again!” or a birthday gift of “Hey go back and lift again!”

“Normal” people get the 6 week clear. Athletes get the 12-15 week clear. This whole thing is fucking with my mind and I’m having some really bad body image issues with myself. I’ve already been down for about 8 weeks total with injury pre-surgery.

I don’t know if we’ll keep hanging out as friends. I haven’t talked to him since after the date when he wished me good night. I think he realized, same as me, that we would be good on paper but not for real. I think I’m a catch, but when people see the little things they run. Men always seem reeeaaallly interested at first, like so eager, but then they get to know me a little deeper and they aren’t so eager anymore. I’m not saying it’s my fault, but it’s just that the little details don’t match.

For instance, my date on saturday told me he goes to the gym a couple times a week. He is skinny, doesn’t look too fit though (meaning muscles). Started complaining about people who take the gym too seriously and drink protein shakes. I told him I take the gym seriously. I go to the gym 5-6x a week. I meal prep and take care of 80% of my meals. I eat clean and really look after eveything I eat- Of course I can eat cake, cookies, ice cream, but most part of my time I am eating well. I see a nutritionist, I have a trainer. etc. He seemed like he couldn’t believe it! I could tell he was thinking he wouldn’t handle something like that! Lol, it was funny because I wasn’t even trying but if it had been a real first important date to me I would have been dissapointed because this guy would not be supportive of my lifestyle.

So, at the end it was a good thing to go out and see what’s out there. And made me realize that I don’t have to present myself as someone I’m not. I’m the way I am, I like to work out and eat well, and if someone doesn’t like that too bad. Now I am 32 and don’t have the need to impress anyone.