DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Congrats Ver!
I’m back from my big trip with Banjo and I must say, it went wonderfully! His family was so nice and really made me feel like part of the family. I met his whole family, including extended, and all his high school friends. We had time to do some sightseeing in his area too. Then he met my whole family and all the friends who were in town and that was great too. Everyone loved him! He was a trooper dealing with my slightly crazy family. I had the thought last night that this month could be my last month sleeping alone for a long, lonnnng time! Kinda crazy to think about!
We also had a chance to talk more about living together and had some good conversations. I’ll be moving in Feb 1st and I feel very ready emotionally. Not ready in terms of my stuff though! I have too many things and I want to use this as motivation to go through clothes and things I don’t need anymore. Banjo plans to do the same and then we’ll pick up some more storage at Ikea probably.
An acquaintance of mine got married on the beach in a big ballgown. One of the photos I saw after the wedding was her and her now-husband IN the water (made mid-shin deep) while she was still in her poofy gown. To each their own, I suppose, but it seemed like an odd choice in dresses given the venue.
Re: former boss. It’s not even (just) the age difference. My former supervisor is kind of a mess. He announced his divorce at work in September, so who even knows if it’s finalized yet. He bought a house with this woman. He has three teenager kids with his first wife, the oldest of whom has behavioral problems. He seems to do his best as a dad, spending many weekends traveling out of state to be with his kids (his only redeeming quality in my book!), but was downright nasty about his first wife. Even if I’d liked him as a person, it’s so hard for me to imagine being on a date with someone like him and thinking, “Yes, this is a good idea.” I wouldn’t touch baggage like his with a 10-foot pole.
Loved catching up on everyone’s updates! I just returned to work today (which is when I generally read DW 🙂 Being on the computer all day at work – I don’t use it much at home. Having so much time off – I didn’t really want to return to work! But I’m excited for the new year. So Happy belated New Year everyone!
We just went over a week with one kid or two at the house visiting. We fed them well, showed them the sights of where we live, and finally sent the last group home this morning. I love his kids but I am so ready to have the house back! We plan on planning nothing for this weekend.
Hope everyone else had a great weekend!
Congrats Ver! And MissDre and Lucia_la, those both sounded like very successful trips with the SO’s.
I really liked your dress too, TheHizzy! I’m a big fan of the lacy wedding dress. And enjoy the quiet. I can’t say I know what it’s like to have your kids visiting for over a week, but we had the niece and nephew over this weekend for their first sleepover (5 & 7 years old) and both ended up sick 🙁
WE had my brother and his fam (Wife and two kids also 5 & 7) right after Xmas thru New Years day. I was sad to see them go but happy to have my house back! Couple that with our oldest really moving in with her boyfriend (don’t know what to think about that just yet) and I spent some of last week organizing and cleaning. It was so nice to have the house back to “normal”!
And @Portia, that sucks they ended up sick! My niece had a belly ache everyday at my house. I think she was just really tired from traveling and holidays and too much stuff going on! I hope they feel better soon 🙂
Oh – @thehizzy i have to say I love your dress too!
I had another nice date with BCB last night! I hadn’t seen him since before the holidays. He came over for dinner, wine, and Netflix (and “Netflix”). I had fun, but as usual am over-thinking things (things like: yeah, I like him, but do I like him *enough*?), so I’m trying to stop. Traveling for work at the tail end of this week, so I’m not sure I’ll see him again for another week or longer.
Yay Copa! Happy to hear about good dating stories. What does BCB stand for?
One of my guy’s friends is having a birthday party Saturday and I’ve been invited. I haven’t met this group yet. It is a bunch from undergrad. My boyfriend told me they party pretty hard. I’ve actually never seen my bf really drunk before and vice versa (tipsy, yes). So I’m a little nervous about it all but I’m glad to meet more of his friends.
I’ve written a bit about my doubts before. There are a lot of hormones and feelings abound but overall I like him. I never thought I’d go for the blonde puppy dog type. He’s been so kind and affectionate. I just feel safe with him. We have fun. I don’t want to use him though and that’s my fear. I do plan on checking in month by month on my feelings and I’ve given myself a six month deadline to really decide. But part is some heavy stuff that I don’t know about yet like if I want to raise children as Christians. I’m Christian, pretty progressive, but I go to church once a month. He’s an Athiest. We’re both accepting at this point but I know religion can be a huge deal and I don’t want to deal with it later. To this point though I just wanted us to get to know each other and it’s taken me a bit because this is my first relationship ever.
He told me he loved me just before Christmas. I think it was what he was feeling at the moment. I told him I liked him a lot and also I didn’t know what to say. He reassured me he wasn’t expecting anything. We’ve continued to text and see each other normally (getting back into the swing of things after holidays).
That’s fun Copa!!!!
hfantods, I know last week on a forum thread there was talk about an athiest with a christian and how it might be hard with kids, etc… but I do think differing views in regard to religion, or lack thereof, can be ok as long as there is open, honest discussions. For instance, my family is Catholic. My sisters and I went to Catholic grade school and we went to church nearly every Sunday. Out of all my sisters, I’d say I’m the most “religious” and I’m not even that religious. The middle sister married a practicing jewish man. They had A LOT of talks about their children and what part religion would play a role. Their decision, children will be raised jewish and will also get to participate in the secular holiday traditions my sister enjoys, but those traditions can’t have any christian/catholic aspects attached. For instance, they don’t join the family for Christmas Eve mass, or Easter Sunday mass. But they can do the Easter Bunny thing. Also, even though her husband follows a lot of the jewish dietary guidelines, she got him to agree that their children can eat pork! My family considers that a win. Anyway. I think with conversations and a willingness to compromise, it can work. Now, if there is no middle ground, it will be harder. Def something to have a conversation about though.
A friend of mine gave him this nickname and I feel embarrassed repeating it, but it stands for Blue Collar Brian. After our first date, I mentioned to her he’s from a blue collar background because it’s a huge departure from my norm. When she asked about him a couple weeks later, she’d given him this charming nickname and I guess I carried it on over here. If I’d nicknamed him, he’d be Thick Midwestern Accent Guy (TMAG).
@hfantods Wow! The L word! Were you comfortable with him saying that to you? You phrased it in a way that made it seem like it was more of a spur of the moment, but does he truly feel that about the entire relationship, and not just ‘in the moment’? How long has it been now? I think if you are several months in talking about what you hope for the future isn’t the worst idea. Gauging how he sees his future is always a nice way to bond and share your morals and values for those ideals.
Be really careful that never slips out, Copa, he could be really hurt/pissed. It sounds snobby AF and you don’t want him to think you had anything to do with it. I’d axe it now and tell your friend.
