DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Well, I definitely wasn’t saying to plan it now. All I was saying is it doesn’t hurt to casually mention it in conversation to at least know what type of wedding you’d both want… especially since he mentioned a Hindu wedding and an engagement is likely imminent.
I personally think it would suck to have an idea in your head, whether it a courthouse, a simple wedding, a big affair, or a destination wedding and come to find out your fiance or his family had something else in mind. That could lead to a lot of frustration to what is supposed to be a fun time. But if you’re comfortable with going with the flow and dealing with whatever comes your way, you do you.
@ktfram Yeah for sure and I mean we already have touched on the subject. I had asked him months ago if it was important to have a hindu wedding and he said he didn’t care. And then when he said his mom might care I was like, well maybe we could have a mixed wedding that features both cultures! And he said yeah, his cousin did something like that.
So it’s not as though we’re avoiding the subject. I just don’t think working out all the details matters right now since we’re not even engaged yet.
I hate to break it to you, but no matter how lax someone seems about religion, if their parents are religious, it WILL be an issue if it’s not addressed. Instead, why not use this as a learning opportunity to learn more about his culture? It’s not just walking around seven times, it signifies something. You said that you don’t care about the wedding, you just want to get married, but you do have to think about cultures, etc. Wishing you the best!
Sorry to say it also, but you seem to know a lot about your boss’ history Copa! You should try to detach and focus on your life. In fact, practically everyone can benefit from doing that and not concerning themselves when they don’t need to.
Sorry to say it also, but you seem to know a lot about my knowing about my boss’ history ChimingIn! You should try to detach and focus on your life. In fact, practically everyone can benefit from doing that and not concerning themselves when they don’t need to.
There was a HUGE step taken towards approving gay marriage in my country today (traditionally Catholic country, Catholic religion is established as official in the Constitution).
This makes me so happy. People are celebrating in the streets.
It’s not approved yet but a huge step.I apologize for my tone, but really? So every time someone points something out, they are a “lurker” and/or troll (trollette?)? I really love this Website and have been reading Wendy since the PopSugar/Frisky days thankyouverymuch! A few things, I was not being sarcastic about the well wishes! It’s really true – I dated a Jewish guy who said he didn’t care about religion and then there was his mom talking about how we’d raise our kids. It’s a fact of life that if someone’s parents are ultra religious, or heck even religious, they want to have that passed on. It’s not a bad thing! I just said my opinion because of my past experience (which we all share) and also seeing it happen with other people. Secondly Copa, I commented before about you saying something about one of your male friends. I think you also said that you might have been interested in him, but that he said something about weight or appearance, and then also that he was interested in your younger co-worker? What I meant with my comment about you is that, maybe you are focusing on wanting things to go wrong for others, instead of taking that energy and focusing on yourself. Again, I love it how BGM can say “newsflash” and lay it down and others that regularly comment can also “criticize” or note things, but as soon as someone else who comments on a FREE WEBSITE does, they are told to butt out. NEWSFLASH – if you don’t like the comment, ignore it, but also don’t get all upset because you posted your business on the internet!
I was commenting only on your hypocrisy.
“You should try to detach and focus on your life. In fact, practically everyone can benefit from doing that and not concerning themselves when they don’t need to”
You’re telling people to focus on their own lives and not concern themselves with other people’s issues, yet you’re doing the exact opposite of that.
BGM doesn’t make those kind of judgmental comments and simultaneously tell people to myob.
And yes, he does get plenty of pushback.
So it’s judgmental to tell someone to try to maybe learn about their future husband’s customs and heritage? Cool, got it!
I wasn’t saying “myob,” I was saying focus on your HAPPINESSand not try to dissect others. Sorry if that didn’t come through. Again, I’m speaking from experience, and I think a lot of people can. Who cares about what her boss’ problems are, when I don’t know she can focus on what she wants. You can try to spin it any way you want, but I was giving my opinion and trying to be helpful. I see it backfired and exploded. I enjoy this thread and love hearing other people’s advice/opinions.
