DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Lol, @Kate…I think his answer was yes, but I just remember him saying based on my birthday that I’m a “Sagittarius with Capricorn rising” and he was a Gemini with…I don’t remember what, rising. At that point, we were sitting in a little cafe that looked like the inside of the lamp on I Dream of Jeannie and drinking kava root tea and he was giggling uncontrollably. I thought it was adorable at the time but now I realized it was because he was high and drinking kava. He would also start drinking vodka tonics at 11am at my house and would drink all day. Good thing he’s cute and now has another woman to look after him, I guess.
OMG. Why did you date him for several months? He sounds like a loser. Glad you’re done with him — he’s someone else’s problem now.
My sister really likes artsy types and I’m always like, “NO, please DO NOT date the guy who is 40, living at home with his mom, and trying to ‘make it’ as a professional trumpet player.”
@Copa, I honestly don’t know. He was fun and cute and I had gotten my heart broken by a guy I thought I’d marry, and then had another guy emotionally abuse me for 8 months, and I think I just wanted a diversion. It was definitely different.
It was 2 1/2 years ago and I can also say that I’m a totally different person now. I put up with wayyyy less shit and am much more willing to cut something off when I see so many red flags (or just not get started at all).
Yeah, sorry if that sounded harsh. I’ve definitely dated some duds, but never a guy who was perpetually high and basically squatting on my couch. Yikes. Glad your standards are way up these days! 😀
@Copa, no worries, I didn’t take it as harsh. It WAS stupid of me to stay with him for so long. I think he was just a diversion; I never actually saw him as long-term-partner potential.
I’ve been totally out of dating since I went through that break-up back in August of last year. It really messed with me. Since then, I go to therapy often – like every two weeks – and I got a really awesome new job, but I (still) just have no desire to do it. I was so bitterly disappointed and I’m still so sad that it just seems like way too much effort.
It seems like dating has gotten WORSE in just the last couple of years, too. And I really think I’m getting way less matches since I turned 35. I’ve pretty much resigned myself to being single forever…even though I probably feel more confident about myself now, with my new job and doing comedy, than I ever have before. Timing’s a bitch.
I asked my neighbor yesterday evening if he wanted to walk our dogs together. Last night didn’t work for him, so he asked if I wanted to do it on Friday instead. So. Kinda vacillating between “he wouldn’t have tried to reschedule if he didn’t want to hang out” and “he’s hoping I’ll forget between now and Friday.” I love/hate that he lives so close because I typically don’t worry too much about the consequences of putting myself out there, especially in tiny ways like this.
@Copa, I would take that as a good sign! Friday night is usually reserved for dates/going out and being social, so the fact that he asked to do it Friday is really good. Haven’t we seen a bunch of LWs who say the guys they’re dating don’t want to hang out on the weekends?
Then again, I’m hopelessly naive for literally no reason, so, y’know…grain of salt.
I don’t love socializing on Fridays anymore, haha. I am so tired after the work week that I really like keeping my Friday nights low-key. It can include other people and being social, like dinner and drinks. But I don’t want stay out late and I’m super content to go home and hang out with my dog. (Maybe I should file this away under “Reasons I’m Single.”)
