DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Yeah but, wouldn’t you make an exception for a guy you were super excited about going out with?
Oh, definitely! My only real point is that not all of us save Fridays to be super social. Some of us just wanna go home and fall asleep on the couch. 😉
ETA: We texted a bit last Friday and his big night out was at the gym. He texted me when he got home, but I’d already fallen asleep on my couch. Haha. It’s nice that if we go on a walk and it’s fun, it’s an easy night to keep hanging out if we’re both up for it. But I’m keeping expectations low because we still barely know one another, and like I’ve mentioned, I’m unsure of his level of interest (though I suspect there is *some*).
Count me as one of those people who likes to chill on Friday’s! I can go out for HH, or dinner right after work… but I can’t go home, wait a couple hours, then go out. I’ll pass out.
Wed, Thur and Sat nights out are more my speed.
Anyway, Copa, I think that’s a good sign he asked about Friday. I doubt he said that hoping you’d forget.
Wednesday and Thursday??? God, I must be getting older faster than I thought because any night that doesn’t start with an S, I just can’t hang 🙂
Don’t overthink it Copa! I take it as a good sign as well. He could have been vague about it but he specifically suggested Friday.
Lol Lianne, I should clarify… if I were to go out on either a Wed or Thurs, it would have to be a happy hour/dinner situation. Not a party situation. IDK why I’d prefer one of those nights over a Friday, but I really like to go home and veg out on a Friday.
I’m usually fall asleep on the couch by 8:30 most friday’s… and the husband has to coax me to the bed. I’m lame.
A couple weeks ago I went to a birthday dinner on a Monday. The host told us to come over for dinner, drinks, dessert, etc. at 8. When we got there, he hadn’t started cooking. So we all drank and cooked together, which was super fun, but we didn’t even sit down to dinner until after 9. I had like five drinks. On a Monday! And I had a work event that same week, either Thursday or Friday. That was such a rough week. Haha.
Actually Copa, I think a “date” walking your dogs together does fit super well into the “low key” category. With my new job, I’m like a lot of us and just want to go home on Fridays and chill with my little poodle. I would love for someone to want to spend an evening walking her with me and just low-key hanging out! (Of course, I’d have to care more about how I look than I would if I were alone, but that’s ok!)
Actually, this reminds me: I met one of my exes this very way, back in the summer of 2010. I was subletting an apartment in the apartment complex where he lived, and we both had dogs (mine was super little at the time, 2 years old!) and we would see each other out walking and chat, then hang out in the courtyard at the apartment complex. It took him about 3 months to ask me out. We eventually decided we’d be better as friends – we didn’t date very long – but we are still friends to this day.
@Copa, I feel like you want to protect your heart, which is totally justifiable, but I think the rescheduling to a certain date, even Friday, shows he’s interested! And yes it’s possible it’s platonic only but the only to way to find out is to spend that time together.
I’ve been lurking so I will awkwardly say, yay Cleo on the ILY’s! And Hizzy, good luck on finding a dress! And TheLadyE, I can’t believe you bumped into/chatted with HippieArtistGuy. Bullet dodged, seriously.
As for me… I tend to overshare. I’ve been trying to talk to my friends more instead of internet strangers, as much as I love this thread! I am still with the guy. I seriously considered ending it, because I wasn’t sure where I saw it going, but whenever I thought about it, I would cry a lot at the thought of never seeing him again. I do cry easily and it was very stressful at work too, but I didn’t want to be rash. I just felt I couldn’t handle everything. It felt like because I had planted the thought of breaking up in my head, that was all I could think about. But since I’ve eased up on it, letting myself think more/less and enjoy the relationship more, I’m happier. And basically I like spending time with him; he’s sweet, smart and sexy; I just don’t know if he’s the “one”. I know most relationships don’t last and it is my first. It’s likely this one won’t either. But he makes me happy and is understanding of my baggage. I do fear I’m emotionally immature and shouldn’t be in a relationship. And that sounds super dramatic.
I am seriously thinking of seeing a psychologist. Both my parents are in that field and I never seemed that bad but maybe I just need someone to talk to. I’ve been having existential crises on work and life even though on paper I’m doing ok.
Alright that’s my overshare again 😉 really, it’s been great to read about all the relationships at different stages! You can still count me as a non succcess.
@hfantods Thank you for sharing! I will say that I started seeing a psychologist last summer and it is one of the best things I’ve ever done in my life. I see him regularly – twice a month, in fact. It is immensely helpful and has made me feel SO much better about myself and who I am. I can’t recommend it highly enough.
I think your senses are telling you not to break up with the guy yet, and that’s totally fine. If you enjoy spending time with him and keep wanting to see him, you should keep dating! But working on yourself is extremely important, too. Feel free to share here anytime!
@TheLadyE Totally agree that it’s a great Friday night for dog owners. I feel guilty I’m gone so much during the week, which is just another reason to veg out on Fridays with my furbaby. Especially since my furbaby is still literally a baby. What you wrote about trying harder to look nice is kinda funny, cause I also want to look cute/put together when I know I’ll see someone I like. It’s damn near impossible when that person is a neighbor. This guy has seen me first thing in the a.m., before coffee or make-up. He asked for my number when I’d just gotten home from the gym, red-faced and rocking a sweaty, frizzy pineapple bun. The first time we hung out was spontaneous, and I hadn’t showered and my hair was starting to look greasy. He apologized for his sweatpants. Heh.
@hfantods It’s not really protecting my heart? I’m not invested. With most guys I’ve liked, I’ve been pretty good at putting myself out there. There’s something about not wanting to feel uncomfortable in/around my own home that’s making me extra cautious. I think the only other place I’d be this cautious is at work. I highly recommend therapy, btw, it’s been really great for me!
