DW Community Catch-up Thread
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So neither dinner nor dog walking happened! I initially got a text saying that he wouldn’t be available until a little later than he thought, and was that ok? I said yep, that’s fine, it actually gave me more time to do some stuff I needed to do. And then a little bit later got a text apologizing and saying his boss quit and basically work stuff came up. I didn’t really know what to say, I just told him it was fine. It seemed genuine but who knows! So now I’m drinking wine on my couch all by my onesies feeling pretty disappointed. Guess I’ll just see how things shake out? I guess I’m not too surprised, I was waaaay to excited.
That’s so exciting, @kmtthat! Congrats and hope closing goes smoothly 🙂
Darn, sorry to hear that @copa. Seems a little crazy to make that up, but that is disappointing.
Update on Neighbor: He apologized repeatedly for Friday, we rescheduled for last night. Went for BYOB sushi. It was fun. He’s really nice, we laughed a lot, share common interests, and being around him feels really easy/effortless. He invited me back to his place, and we “watched Netflix” for a few hours (while his dog brought us toys). Haha. We didn’t seal the deal, or whatever work-appropriate term you wanna use, but it was fun and he was respectful of my boundaries. I don’t follow any real “rules” but I’ve noticed I do have dating patterns (e.g., I’ve noticed I’ll kiss a guy on the second date, go home with him or invite him over on the third, etc.), so this was a departure from my norm. But I kinda know him, which I’m sure makes a different, and I guess everything felt like we’ve both been waiting for something to happen. He invited me to spend the night but I had to get home to my pup. I feel a little unsure how to act today — like, do I text him the same way I do with online dates I wanna see again?
You could totally text him and say you had a good time and wouldn’t mind seeing him again sometime.
The husband and I work together, so like you, we were familiar with one another. We hooked up once before we started dating. We were joking that morning and he said something about how he could go for a glass of chocolate milk (apparently he likes that after a night of drinking?) and his birthday was a few days later. So, on his birthday, I sent him an e-mail that said Happy B-day. Cheers! And it had a pic of chocolate milk. He loved it. However, it was a month later before we had our first official date due to schedules, vacations, deciding if we want to try to date someone we worked with. But we did keep in contact those few weeks with silly things like that.
Anyway, my point is, don’t overthink it! If you want to text, do it. If that “scares” him off, well then, he’s not worth your time anyway.
Yeah, I’m sure I’m overthinking it cause we live so close and I don’t want to make things weird. SO many people have told me, “Yeah, that’s why I’d never try dating my neighbor.” I’m trying not to think too hard, but do feel super cautious. It’s got me feeling anxious. I have therapy tonight, which I’m sure will help. I love when my appointments have such convenient timing.
@copa, that is awesome! I agree, keep texting as you usually would, get the ball rolling on another night out and see where it goes!
Aw Copa glad you guys were able to reschedule and seem to have really good chemistry! I think you move at whatever pace makes sense with that specific person. My current bf and I slept together after three weeks (when my norm is more 3 months) and it felt super fast, but totally made sense for us. I’d text him like normal and just see where it goes!
No updates with me, other than crazy issues closing on this place. I never have felt more adult than arguing through lawyers on what to do about a leak issue. BF and I are totally worn out by the process, but it’s been good to go through something so difficult together and feel like we are a team.
Anyone have any cool date ideas for when it’s still cold out? I feel like we’ve been in a funk of just movies / dinner. And since he’s only home Thursday night to super early Monday morning, want to do more with our time together. I thought about doing a glass blowing class. Or one of those wine painting nights? WE once did a BYOB class where you made ROBOTS and it was super fun.
KMEN: i’ve done glass blowing and it was so fun! Radiostar and I and a couple friend of ours did it right around Christmas. Very cool. Plus Begyle and Dovetail brewing are both right there for drinks afterwards.
We have a pretty epic list of stuff in the city to do (and random). We just went to Winter’s Jazz club which is a newer one (we like Andy’s and Jazz Showcase and Greenmill). You could always hit up soupbox or something casual before heading over there.
Other ideas: dim sum! Head to China town for lunch on the weekend and eat eat eat.
The museum of broadcast journalism has the SNL exhibit which was really cool (and then of course drinking afterwards at Rossi’s).
Ive got other ideas, but i left my notebook at home..
Axe throwing! Do it! Actually, I have no real advice because the husband and I haven’t been too adventurous lately. We need to though.
So, I read Friday’s dear prudence and one of the letters made me think of you kmtthat, as in, I thought you might be the LW.
Ooh, MG, I’d love to hear more ideas too. The SNL thing sounds fun! I’m so boring. I need to stop being boring.
Yeah, it’s funny, cause I truly don’t think there’s a right/wrong time to move a relationship forward physically. I do what feels right in the moment and have noticed patterns, but after that date STILL found myself thinking, “OMG was that too much too soon?” Anyway, we’re back to texting, but my mom’s been in town (leaves tonight), a different family member pops into town beginning tomorrow, and I have a conference this week for work too. This week is busy. So hopefully this weekend or next week?
@kmtthat I am sick of this winter! Dates that I’ve had fun doing that aren’t movies/dinner: I’ve done cooking classes at The Chopping Block and Naveen’s Cuisine (Indian and Thai food). I guess it’s still dinner, but a different setting. I was in Chinatown stuffing my face with dumplings with my mom and sister this weekend, and noticed that they have dumpling-making classes at the place we went to. I’ve done an axe throwing date, too, and had a lot of fun, but think it’d be better with a bigger group. (I was getting bored of throwing axes after awhile, and with just two of us, one of us was always “up” to throw.) I’ve done those wine and painting nights with friends (never as a date) and had fun doing that, too, so I think it’d be a fun date. I’ve also had fun on a date at Adler After Dark (though I think it’s always on Thursdays and your bf might be too tired if that’s the night he gets into town). They’re having a beer fest kinda thing at the Field Museum soon, I think. I’ve had fun on dates doing things as simple as bowling.
OH, and when one of my friends was dating, she, for some reason, always suggested rock climbing on the third or fourth date, even though she’s not an avid rock climber outside of dating. I thought that sounded like fun, even though it’s been like 15 years since I’ve attempted rock climbing and think I’d stink at it.
