DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Oh I’m still around! Nothing new to announce, really. Just counting down the days til I see him again. Been talking to a realtor because I think I’m going to sell my house – I’ve done the math and it doesn’t make sense financially for me to rent it. Other than that… just plugging away at my side hustle and making plans to get pet passports for my kitties.
How goes wedding planning?
Wait, you have to get pet passports for your animals?! Saying they’re up to date on shots and stuff? That’s bonkers, but so makes sense! A little kitty mug shot to go in their passports. Hahahah!! My cat would be like “yes, I’ll take the pet down at TSA.”
Planning is well. I got him a photo booth as a surprise. It wasn’t in our budget at initial cost, but I found one for half price. He’s excited. The couple people I’ve told are excited. So I call that a win. Family comes in soon to look at dresses and then we get to outfit the bridesmaids. It’s coming together for sure!
Nice! Excited for you about the photo booth! When is your big day?
Yes, I have to fill out alllllll kinds of paperwork to bring my cats. It’s a pain in the ass and I’m a bit nervous that I’ll miss something. They have to get vaccinations and blood work, they have to be microchipped, I have to fly into an approved point of entry on an approved airline… it’s all kinds of strict lol. I’m going to get some help from an immigration consultant to make sure I’ve got it all covered.
Aye, the things we do for the love of our animals. I know some friends who had to their cat quarantined when moving to Jordan and back for a short bit. I got my cat from the pound, and they micro-chipped him for free. I really should update his information though. Good call!
We’re summer of NEXT year, so we have a huge jump, plenty of time to save. But we are getting all the vendors we want and have tons of time to shop around. I’m so ready for it to be here though. It’s nice to know “this is our budget so we have time to haggle.”
Nice! Yeah I can imagine being really excited and being ready for it right now haha. Once we get engaged I probably won’t want to wait I’ll just be like “k let’s go to the courthouse now please!” haha.
I was ready to elope when we were in Hawaii but he really wants his kids there. So, I agreed to wait for a full on wedding. Because if his kids are there it’d be too many hurt feelings if my parents weren’t….and my brother and SIL and stuff. I’m trying to talk him into a quick courthouse one before our actual wedding and then just doing the ceremony for fun for the wedding we planned. We’ll see.
I know people who have moved abroad with their cats, and the vet did give them something to relax the cats and make a very long trip tolerable for them. And yes, they had their kitty passports!
Yes! Kitties will travel with me in the cabin. And yes I’ll likeky get something from the vet to make them drowsy, cuz it’s a long trip. Might also get a “calming” collar.
My oldest cat has been on the plane many times before but never a long distance. I’m nervous for them.
Glad everyone is doing so well, lots of success cases from this thread. I have been struggling a lot lately. Haven’t met anybody new since my breakup (that was almost a year ago). Haven’t really gone on dates, maybe two total. I am really feeling down, the thing is I am definitely not where I thought I’d be at 32 yo. Seems like everyone is better off. I am lonelier than ever, don’t have that many friends, I have taken on new hobbies, joined beauty school.
Anyways, how do I deal with not being where I wanted to be? I don’t mean married or kids,I mean I am miserable rn. I was never like that. I thought at 32 I would be happy wherever I was, yet some days I really struggle getting out of bed. I volunteer now,I try to go out more… Friends aren’t really that helpful. Tried talking to a close friend of mine who said “well, being married is tough too”.yeah I bet, being married,having a partner for life makes you cry yourself to sleep…I’m sorry you are feeling that way, and are you getting treatment for depression?
I really have to strongly push back on your last sentence there though. Being married in no way means you have a partner, let alone a partner for life. A marriage can absolutely be fulfilling and nurturing, but lots of marriages are the opposite. Don’t do your friends a disservice by assuming they’re happy. Everyone is struggling with something.
I think you will have to find a way to accept that you are where you are right now and that it’s actually ok. 32 is so young in the grand scheme of life. You have lots more to learn and do and experience. You are fine, and enough, the way you are. You’ve really got to try to see that, with help if you need it.
Yeah I know not everyone is happy,however I meant it as not as empathetic a response as I would hope. Like if I were struggling to lose weight and went to a fit friend and he told me, well being fit is super tough. I prefer advice not a comparison. I didnt tell him anything though ?. I appreciate he is willing to listen to me whine
