DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Bridesmaid and my dress. I have tried on what I think it will be but haven’t made the official pick.
I asked someone on a date on Saturday. It’s a professor I had in grad school, he’s 41 and I’m 32. When I was in my first choice of grad school (I then changed it) he taught me a seminar, he had just finished his PhD. After the seminar was over he asked me out once, like causally, to hang out with his friends, but I wasn’t available. A couple weeks ago I went to a concert with a couple friends, and one of my friends invited him and he was there, they are now coworkers. This is about five years after we met. After the concert he started talking to me via Facebook (we have been facebook friends since he was my professor). Asked me out once but I was at the beach.
Then on saturday I asked if he wanted to meet up to go see a movie, he said “I’m actually in Chicago right now but talk to you later”. Didn’t set a date or anything. And the conversation stopped there. What do you think?Just say “ok let me know when you’re free” and then don’t message again. He’ll reach out to you when he is free 🙂
Ok so…storytime:
I got back on Hinge at the recommendation of a coworker and I found a guy who seems just incredible. His Hinge description said he’s taking a break from it because he hadn’t found success and was tired of it, but to contact him on Instagram & gave his handle. Cool, so I did.
Btw – his Instagram is public and I can tell from a recent picture that he had to have updated Hinge within the last month. That is possibly relevant.
Anyway, when you “slide into someone’s DMs” on Insta you can see if they’ve seen your message. He hasn’t seen mine yet, and it’s been a day.
He’s a local cinematographer and has a website, which I found by doing a quick search of his full name which is also on his Instagram.
If he doesn’t see my message on Instagram, I’m going to email him. (He has both his phone number and email address on his website.) I figure – what do I have to lose? He’s not going to respond to me or go out with me anyway if he doesn’t see my message, and he seems really awesome.
My question is: how long should I wait to email? 3 days? A week? What do we think?
TheLadyE – I would not email him. It’s a little to stalker-ish seeming that you went through four websites/platforms to track him down (hinge, insta, google, and his website); I know all of this takes like 3 minutes, but still – I’m just telling you how it may look to this guy. If it’s meant to be, he’ll check his instagram DMs and find you there.
Don’t email him. I mean, is he really taking a break if he puts his instagram handle there? I don’t know, it seems weird. But like Wendy said, emailing him is a bit much.
Also, I don’t know how Hinge works but with Tinder he has to swipe and you have to too, so at first there’s some interest at some level. But if you follow him on Instagram you don’t know if he is interested. So, wait for him to show it.
