DW Community Catch-up Thread
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@TheLadyE, I think that you should probably think of this less in terms of red flags, etc, and more in terms of just data, one way or the other.
A guy who talks about sex early on wants to have a casual sexual relationship with you. That’s what he’s signalling. You can guess that’s not what you want and then move on.
This guy has a very unusual sexual preference that he knows the vast majority of women aren’t into. It’s better for him and better for you to air it out earlier rather than waste time dating. I guess that there may be some subset of women that are into cuckoldry but are put off by discussing it too early, but all in all it’s probably more efficient for everyone to do the filtering early on.
I think it’s clear @TheLadyE was never going for this but wanted to check if this was common. Anyway I disagree with your coworkers. I don’t think it’s normal to bring this stuff up between strangers. But I also don’t really register these messages. I bet it’s also a way they get “off”. I totally ignore them as well as the “hey beautiful”. Maybe it’s more coming from the other side of I think I’m cute but not drop dead gorgeous and I think these guys are spamming all women, regardless if they think you’re a looker! So unless it was super personal and creepy I didn’t think much of them either way (even thought societal wise, still sucks).
Maybe it’s regional but I found the apps more or less the same. Bumble front loads the most attractive people. At least with Bumble it normalized women messaging first. I’ve also read a lot of guys complaining about women sending “Hey” or “.” Ladies, it goes both ways!
I definitely don’t think that’s normal to talk about kinks within 2 hour of talking to someone! But I’m 34 so just on the very upper cusp of millennial. Maybe that’s what is normal for people dating in their mid 20’s these days?
I’m not sure if putting in “no hookups” will help that much. I haven’t tried but I think men who do proposition immediately will do it anyway. Not that that’s right.
Rereading the post again I wouldn’t be ok with it but it’s “good” that he got it out of the way!
I think he was honest from the beginning, maybe so you wouldn’t waste your time and that’s fine. I do think that if he has this kind of preferences, he should be looking somewhere else. I don’t think (and don’t understand why people think) this is appropriate to look for in dating apps. Maybe I’m wrong I don’t know, but I would use other resources.
On apps, I’ve seen people admit to their preferences in the contents of their profiles. (I’ve seen pictures of, like, feet on Tinder.) I think that’s a better way of being straightforward about it from the get-go. I don’t know how CMB works, though, I’ve never used it.
Quick opinion question – Man of Veritek and I are attending a wedding at the end of the month and it seems to be on the fancier side.
I don’t want to buy more dresses so I’m trying to make work what I have. Ceremony is at 2 pm, reception is a 6 (catholic wedding so break in between the two). MoV is wearing a gray suit.
I have a great little black dress with long bell sleeves that have gold embroidery/sequins around the edge. Is black too much for a June wedding? the 2 pm part is throwing me off. I can always try rent the runway, just trying not to spend too much.
I don’t think black is bad for a june wedding, but the long sleeves I’m not sure about. I’d have to see a pic of the dress.
I just signed up for RTR Unlimited that I’ll do for a month because we’re going on a cruise and the husband is wearing a fucking tux two different nights. I needed dresses. For an introductory price, it was $99. Might not be bad to do for a month?
@ladye The constant cuckholding talk would have been a deal killer for me too. Mainly because any guy who is that into their kink 2 hours into chatting isnt looking for the same thing I am. Even if we shared the same kink and I was just looking for a hookup, he had no idea what I wanted when he started going on about it. I’d be concerned that he’s going to be selfish and unconcerned with my pleasure and just find someone more compatible.
@veritek33 Black would be ok for a wedding I think. The big question is…where is the wedding? If it’s Florida for example, those long sleeves will make you melt.
I’d love to see a pic of the dress too, mainly because I’m always curious about stuff like that.
It’s St Louis so it’s going to be effing hot. Two options on Rent the Runway I like:
https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/dress_the_population/maggie_dresshttps://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/hutch/green_ruffle_hem_dress
Thoughts on those? With my red hair I like to stick with blue, green and black.
