DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Yeah, I understand that. He should have been more conscientious given the neighbor situation. I almost feel like admitting to “leading you on” makes it worse, idk.
Yeah, it’s one thing to show interest because you are figuring out your feelings in which case that deserves at least a text to say you don’t feel it. But he actually admitted he was leading you on consciously! I.e. Keeping you on the back burner. Then to ignore your request to get your stuff back. Good riddance.
@copa I have to laugh at the Bumble guy experience, as it was very similar to one I had way back last Spring when I was dating still. The guy I was chatting with randomly sent me an old photo of him sunbathing outside naked, so I too could see his entire backside. Called him out that it was inappropriate and I cancelled plans. He was trying to be funny, but it made no sense in the context of our previous conversations.
I kinda thought Bumble Butt Guy would still try to reschedule, but I think he felt embarrassed when I called him out. As well he should! The final texts we sent were, “Sorry you saw my butt cheeks.” “Me too.” It’s kinda funny, but right now I feel really defeated by dating so I’m super annoyed by it.
K how does one take a photo of their booty while lying in bed? Timer? I can only imagine great contortion.
I imagine lying on side with sheet strategically draped, or on stomach, and take the picture over shoulder. But wtf is wrong with guys that they would actually DO that? You wouldn’t want a pic like that from a guy you’re in a relationship with, far less a guy you haven’t been out with once. Appalling.
I wish I could post the photo here. Ha. He’s making a really stupid face. He was lying on his stomach and under the blankets from mid-butt down. It was basically a selfie taken from a higher up angle so I can see his face, arms, chest, back, the top of his butt crack. The butt wasn’t the main point of focus, but we’ve never met so it was such a stupid choice.
One of my exes and I used to send each other goofy selfies while we were dating because we lived an hour apart, but 1) it was an LTR, 2) we had the same sense of humor and definition of “goofy,” and 3) our photos were never, ever anything like this.
I mean, it’s very rude but it’s not incomprehensible. He’s trying to quickly sexualize the relationship and feel her out for the possibility of early sex. He didn’t happen to accidentally have a picture of his ass and he didn’t send it to be funny.
Yeah. I think I should’ve seen it coming. After I posted here about his early on comments about, like, fit women being sexy, and how I told him not to say that shit to me, I mentioned I go to a fair number of cocktail receptions and black tie events for my job. And he responded with, “For some reason, that’s sexy.” Like two days after I’d told him comments about my sexiness aren’t appropriate! I actually really liked our initial text exchange — he seemed nice, smart, funny, and like he had his shit together — so I tried to give him the benefit of every doubt, but shouldn’t have. I’m not even sure I believe he was sick. It doesn’t matter now, and luckily this is the closest I’ve ever come to being on the receiving end of a dick pic. (Side note: One of my friends went on a date with a guy who sent her a dick pic out of sheer curiosity what a person who does that is like in person.)
Honestly can’t remember what she said. I think if he’d been as cooky IRL, I’d have remembered her reaction, though.
FMH and I just made it through the passing of my beloved Grandma who he luckily got to meet several times. If I ever questioned if he was the man for me, all questions were answered this weekend. He’s wonderful.
