DW Community Catch-up Thread
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So, Friday date got cancelled.
Yesterday’s date was great! We closed the bar talking so much. He looks like a great guy, and conversation was really good. Told me straight up that he liked me very much. Buuuut…. I don’t know yet. He is cool though. But this wasn’t first date ever from tinder and my first date since my last breakup. So,it’s a good start.
@ale Glad it went well and it’s fine not to know how you feel. Early on it helps to just ask yourself if you’d go out on just on more date with the guy. That’s all you need to decide.
At 4:30 am I was awoken by racket in my courtyard. It was or course Neighbor, his gf, and four friends. I could hear them cracking open cans and Neighbor invited them all back to his place. Maybe I’m old and boring but omg no to continuing the party at that hour. I feel bad for the person in the unit below his.
ahhh the bed! My ex had this bed that he loved and it was WAY to soft. He had gotten it just out of college and it was a cali king. I sorta got used to it, but once we divorced, I spent a weekend finding the perfect mattress for me. My husband’s mattress was some cheap thing that I hated, so now that it is in teh guest room, I bought a good topper and it sleeps much better for guests. At some point when we move, we’ll go and pick out a new mattress together. SO IMPORTANT THOUGH.. We love coming home after travel and sleeping on strange beds. Thankfully, when his parents moved, they got rid of the 40+year old full size mattress that we had to sleep on so no more springs in my back!
Re Success Story: I’ll call us a success when we pass the 2 year mark lol.
Re CrossFit Games: Ale and Hizzy, am I the only one with a huge crush on Vellner and Sweeney? Like I’m over Fraser even though I love him. But I was so sad to see Sara withdraw.
Re beds: I purchased a queen size tempurpedic ten years ago for my firs home and I refuse to sleep on anything else long tern. Boyfriend has an AWFUL mattress and then remarks how much better he sleeps at my house. Duh dude, you’re sleeping on the worst mattress of all time.
The AG and I had out first long-ish date/day together on Sunday. He’s selling his house, beginning the packing process and looking for a new place. I offered to help and ended up having lunch together, going to like 6 open houses, then having dinner, drinks and watching the 20th anniversary of the Big Lebowski. It was a really good day – I always love the possibilities of open house, and he made it fun.
He made a silly joke about wondering if I was going to sparkle in the sunshine like some bad vampire movie and I realized up till now we’ve pretty much only hung out at night. Still spending that much time together was eye opening in a good way.
YAY @alafair! I haven’t been to any open houses as an adult, but my family moved a lot growing up, and I used to love going to them. I think that’d be a fun date.
Bumble Guy is cooking for me tonight. He’s making lasagna. He also invited my dog to come, which makes me so happy. I’m excited to see him and hear about the trip he was on. Not sure if this is weird, but I’m excited to see how he lives.
It was really nice! It’s the first time I’ve been to his place and he lives like a grown up (hallelujah!). Like, he owns soap AND hand towels. We had salad, lasagna, and wine. We walked my dog together around his neighborhood. We cuddled and made out on the couch but not much more. He was just back from Vegas and tired, and I can’t hang anymore. Didn’t spend the night. So things are moving forward but slooowly, but I think it’s fine? I look forward to seeing him and am enjoying his company. It’s still so early so I think it’s still enough. We’re going out again this weekend, and after that he’ll be out of town way more than he’s in town for the rest of the month. So. We’ll see.
@Copa – agreed – wanna know about the date and how his apartment looked and his cooking!
My best friend wasn’t let into his GF’s apartment till they’d been dating for more than a year. He actually ended up breaking up with her over this before she relented. He still hasn’t seen her bedroom or the bathroom. I’m convinced the woman is hiding a husband, a creepy doll collection, or some bodies up in there cause that is WEIRD.
His place was nice! He has a two-bedroom condo. We’re in Chicago, so a lot of homes tend to be one room wide but multiple rooms deep, and that’s how his is — I think my dog appreciated running up and down the length of three rooms and back. Ha. He has photography on his walls and photos of his family and friends throughout the place. A well stocked bar. Leather couches. A cute little sunroom in the back leading out to a shared yard. I dunno, just a typical bachelor pad, I guess, but after “dating” my neighbor, who literally didn’t have soap or hand towels in his bathroom (don’t worry, though, he owns essentials like DJ’ing equipment), it’s refreshing to see that some men have their shit together. His cooking wasn’t amazing — it was his first lasagna ever and needed more sauce — but I don’t care at all. I thought the whole night was so thoughtful. I want to make him dinner next. 🙂
I don’t know how long I’d date someone without seeing their place, but a YEAR is way too long. And very, very weird. I know I’ve met some people who are more concerned about dating safety than others and wait longer to be alone with their dates, but this isn’t that. If someone didn’t have me over eventually within the first couple months, I’d assume I was the other woman or that they were up to something SUPER shady. Maybe she’s “just” a hoarder.
