DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I remember taking a cake decorating class as a kid. One of my mother’s attempts to keep me busy in the summer. I was the only kid but loved it. Maybe I should look into that here. Sounds like something they for sure have in this two horse town haha.
I had a really good first date with a guy from Tinder on Saturday. We went to have pizza and then to watch people wearing Halloween costumes on the street. It was nice, he is super nice guy and really cute. I couldn’t tell if he likes me though. He texted me to say he had a good time, there were talks of a second date. And we’ve been texting today. I really don’t know how to make this work because I really liked the guy. This thought kept me up at night yesterday. What to do now.
I had a question. I think I’m the only single person going on first dates on this thread but I still want to know what are your go-to first date outfits? I’ve been on three first dates this year and I have worn the same to all three: and oversized sweater with skinny jeans and high heeled booties. I accesorize with a long neclace and that’s it. I really don’t know what to wear to a first date because I don’t want to be too forward but also it’s at night so not as casual. I don’t know. What do you guys think?
That sounds fine for a first date. I used to wear a dress and wedge sandals if it was warm, and skinny jeans with some kind of cute top if it was cooler. I guess I didn’t go oversized sweater, but also not plunging cleavage. These days, I might wear a shoulder-showing top.
Edit: If you only have ONE outfit, you might want to branch out and invest in a few more tops you feel pretty in.
@Ale Yay Ale! That sounds like a good first date! He wouldn’t be trying to arrange a second date if he didn’t like you at all. For first date outfits, casual but cute. I struggled the most with after work first dates, because my work outfits didn’t feel like date outfits. But skinny jeans with a cute top and booties would be pretty normal for me, so I think what you wore is fine. I’ll also add, when I jumped into the online dating scene a few years ago, I’d stress about what to wear. Then dating got exhausting, and I stopped stressing, but by then I had a few go-to outfits. I think as long as you wear something flattering that makes you feel pretty and confident, you’re set.
@Ale I’m so glad you went on a date and enjoyed it! I think your outfit sounds very cute.
I had a couple things in rotation for a while – in the summer a black, knee length sun dress that I could throw a cardigan or scarf on with it. I also like the jeans and a sweater route. Friday night we went on a date to an Italian restaurant and I wore a sweater dress with some boots and a scarf. Just wear something you’re comfortable in, you feel pretty and confident in, and that YOU like.
Sounds like a great first date Ale! I think your outfit sounds appropriate too. I did skinny jeans, boots and sweater too. Maybe leather jacket or something.
Our weekend trip was really lovely. But one crazy thing happened— we went to a festival in town and a guy I went out with on one Tinder date a year and half ago was there. We went out on one date. I texted him after and he didn’t text me back. I was a little put off but nbd for real.
It really was a nothing burger but it kind of threw me off since we were three hours away from home. I don’t even know if he saw me or recognized me.
I did tell my bf even though I didn’t have to (and maybe I shouldn’t have? But I’m glad I felt comfortable enough to tell him?) because I was just feeling weird and felt like I was acting weird, avoiding parts of the room. We laughed it off and I honestly forgot until catching up on this thread.
But yeah, what a coincidence!
@hfandtods I don’t think you needed to tell him but I also don’t think it’s a big deal to do so. It’s funny, last month a couple friends were in town and we went to a large, crowded craft fair. At one point, my friend nudged me because there was a guy not at all discreetly looking at me. It was a guy I went on a handful of dates with two years ago, and he was very obviously trying to see if it was me. We exchanged pleasantries when we made eye contact. Then he walked faster to catch up with the girl he was with and they walked away holding hands. Not a big deal, but I felt kind embarrassed (or a similar emotion?) after for some reason. I’m not sure why I felt anything. I’d basically forgotten about him, but really liked him when we met, and was pretty sad when he didn’t want to see me anymore. He is maybe 1-2 years younger than I am and has aged a LOT in the past two years, and when I told my friend that he’d be 30 now she was aghast.
This sweater I’m talking about is white, has pockets and has pearl-like buttons in the back. I think it’s pretty cute. Thanks for the input!
I am currently just having a particularly overly stressful time right now. Not really wanting to get into the details but what does everyone do to relax? I normally work out but I’m not really feeling that at the moment. So, looking for what everyone else uses for their relaxing outlets!
Crafting relaxes me – knitting, pottery, crochet, other crafting materials, sometimes baking. Anything really that gets my creative side going and uses my hands.
Hmm, if I’m having a particularly rough go, the best thing I can do for myself is designate a time period, usually a day or full weekend, and actively not engage with the world or friends/family. During that time period, I’ll eat comfort foods. I’ll do a lot of walking and maybe some window shopping. I’ll also veg out on the couch and watch some guilty pleasures. I’ll stay off soical media. And sometimes not even answer texts or phone calls. By being my myself, I remember why I like me and when this designated hibernation is over, I’m ready to face the world again.
And if I’m tense and have trouble sleeping, one glass of wine helps. Not more though. One glass. A good night sleep should help!
Oh, @ale, don’t forget to ask yourself if you like him!!!!
