DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I feel the same as you, @hfantos – I would be annoyed if I were the SIL, but I definitely wouldn’t say anything about it (well, not to anyone who would repeat it to the other bride and groom!) and I would get over it. And the reason I’d be annoyed wouldn’t have anything to do with my wedding being “my big day” or about having my thunder stolen or any of that – which, it sounds like are the reasons the SIL in this case is mad; I would just feel bad for any guests who might have to travel to two weddings back-to-back, especially since one is a destination wedding so people are definitely already traveling for that one. Being a wedding guest can also be expensive – travel costs, but also gifts, attending showers, attire – and I’d feel bad for anyone feeling an extra crunch with weddings just two months apart from each other. Not a huge deal, and I’d get over it; I’m also particularly anxious all the time about other people’s convenience level so am extra sensitive to shit like this. Most people who are normal wouldn’t be bothered.
SO PRETTY @ver! that’s awesome. I have not eaten at Madisons, but it looks great! Next time we’re in town (and once the capitol is done), his uncle will give us a tour finally (It’s Sam from Samuel’s Tuxedo).
Holy sis-in-law! Yeah two months is fine, especially since yours is in town. I mean, she’s already going to have a small guest list because of the destination aspect of it.
and I agree with Wendy on the “don’t call it your honeymoon” thing.. but think about checking out the Keys! that’s a whole lot of fun
@Wendy – I 100% agree with that logic. But here’s the kicker. Her wedding is less than 15 people. Literally just his siblings/parents and her sibling (MofV) parents and one grandparent. The only overlap at our wedding would be their parents and grandfather. But I do understand what you’re saying about travel costs and such. Because we are feeling it was well.
@MG Sam! I’m familiar. And yes I hope they finish that capitol renovation soon because it looks like a big condom on the dome.
Savannah isn’t too far from Orlando! St. Augustine is pretty close and a lot cooler place than Orlando.
In “Mexico” at Epcot, there’s a tiny tequila bar called La Cava. It might seat like 20 people. This is my favorite place in all of Disney. Go, get a tequila flight, eat some chips and guac, relax!!
We did a family trip to Disney in March, my sisters wanted to take the nieces/nephew. The husband and I went along, didn’t love it, but that tequila bar was my reprieve from the masses.
If I had scheduled my (hypothetical) wedding EIGHT WEEKS before my sisters it would have been a real FUCK YOU to her as it it would have meant our RELATIVES would have to choose between weddings. Especially as with my family as pretty much EVERYBODY would have to fly in.
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Look, I loathe Bridezillas. But… deliberately scheduling your wedding eight weeks before another family member’s wedding is the Bridezilla move here. In my opinion.I wonder if there might be some deeper sibling dynamics at play here that are contributing to her angst at not being married first? (Like anyone is going to care in 20 years that your weddings were two months apart…) Disney isn’t really my jam, either, but after a day trip there with my husband, then-5yo, and MIL, I have to say I have a huge appreciation for the effort they put into the operation. Even at 4pm during peak season, the bathrooms were SPOTLESS and there wasn’t a single overflowing trashcan to be seen. Definitely hit up Epcot for adult beverages!
I guess that does make me a bridezilla BGM for wanting to have my wedding on my grandparents anniversary as an honor to them. I’ll take that title.
Look, you clearly don’t like your SIL. (Just go reread your descriptions of her.) I suspect your husband shares this animosity. Why? Because deliberately slamming down HIS wedding right in front of HERS is a classic DICK upstaging move. I remain baffled so few see thIs. It’s fucking textbook.
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Oh sure. The grandparent thing is nice, I guess. But it’s an awfully convenient thing to hide behind while being a bit of a jerk.
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Look, everybody around here thinks I’m an asshole. And yet even I wouldn’t do this. No way. No day.
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Congrats and all that. But really. I would rethink this. You are marrying his SIL in a sense. Hell, more often than not, she’ll outlive your husband! If you want to start things out with her justifiably mad at you, well, then enjoy the lifelong conflict. Many do.
@LisforLeslie they are both schedule for 2020 right now. And we just don’t want to have a long engagement, we just want to get married. And I’ll be almost 36 and we would like to have a child. Probably all stupid reasons, and whether anyone believes me or not, we didn’t set out to make her mad or upstage her. We asked her weeks ago if that date would bother her and she said no and how exciting it was for us to do that for my grandparents. But now she’s changed her mind.
I don’t think Veritek is a bridezilla. They ran the date by the SIL and she didn’t object.
SIL is a bridezilla. There are 8 weeks apart. Sounds like a classic case of someone that is getting married for the buzz and the pics, and not for the marriage. I don’t know but the whole culture surrounding weddings nowadays is fucking insane.
Anyways, Veritek what does your fiance say? Is he siding with his sister or with you?
