Well I have used toys in the bedroom, and I personally own a vibrator, which is great for myself, but not so much for any guy I use it with. If you get a toy that helps stimulate both you and your bf maybe he would be more into it? Or go to a sex shop or look online together and see if you can find some things that you can both enjoy? Cock rings can be fun for both if you get a good quality one.

Oooh, thanks! That’s a good one, I’ll bring that up!

I just had an honest convo with him about it and he said he was actually open to the idea of the vibrator, but nervous about hurting me. He said I mistook his awkwardness for dislike and should give him a bit more leeway. Which, honestly, he miiiight be right about – control freaks raise your hands:) – so we’re going to give that another go, too!

Thanks guys, you are awesome.

Back to the dating. 🙂

That sucks! Feel better soon!

I’m keeping it low key here.. wrapping presents for a git exchange I’m doing on reddit and watching Friends. I’m going to the movies on Wednesday though.

Longish story short…Lion Tamer & I had a conversation about kissing tonight. We were texting, and I texted him something like “I’m still waiting for you to kiss me! ;)” thinking that after 4 dates and with him talking about us dating (rather than “hanging out”) and saying how much he wanted to see me more, this was totally OK to say. He said “Woah” and got scared…and then said he didn’t know why he was scared.

Later on, when he got done with work, he called me and we talked for an hour. Turns out he is afraid that one of us will hurt the other, but he does like me. I actually told him about this site (without telling him specifics) and said that Wendy and others here always say that every time you choose to date, that involves risk and you might get hurt. So if we’re actually going to date and be vulnerable with each other that it means we might get hurt…but you don’t get anywhere without risk. I also said I wasn’t willing to date him or be in a relationship with him and not kiss him, and he agreed.

Also I’d be the first girl he’s really dated since his rather terrible breakup with his fiancee two years ago, so I think that is playing into his fear a bit too.

He seems to be…a very good communicator and also he really likes me, even if he is a bit timid. He said he has already told his mom about me and is constantly talking to his roommate about me so he must like me. 🙂

He invited me to go hiking with him on Saturday. I’m glad we got this out in the open instead of me waiting for weeks (months!) on end like I did with Hippie Artist Guy. I just figured…this is what I want, and if I say this and he doesn’t want it it’s best that I know now.

So – progress! He definitely likes me and we were able to communicate well. That’s good, yes?

(I know this must all seem strange to those of you who progress physically much more quickly, so I appreciate you bearing with me in what must seem like a snail’s pace. Heh. To be honest, I am used to a guy making a move within the first 3 dates or so, and so that’s why, when he expressed so much interest in me, I spoke up rather than waiting 3 months like I did with Hippie Artist. Hopefully this means growth for me too!)

@TheLadyE I am so happy you spoke up, you guys better kiss on your hike!

@Ktfran it sucks he hurt your feelings, but actually probably ended up good as you were able to have a productive conversation about it.

I know I have a boyfriend but I just need to vent for a bit. My boyfriend is right now and has been for the month of October involved in this super intensive art project and I have barely seen him. He makes time for me on the weekends and I know I am being greedy and trying to be reasonable, but I do feel neglected. I know this is the price of admission for dating my boyfriend, and I support him and am super stoked on his project and know too its only temporary but right now it just kind of sucks. I just feel really distant from him and I hate that. ugh anyways. I just had to vent for a second.