Dealing with 'fake' Christmas Presents
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Yeah, I forget to mention there have been some health warnings with fake lol products specifically.
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/chemicals-in-fake-lol-dolls-no-laughing-matter-2t2nszvbr
I did explain to her, that it was still a present. However, she is still running around saying she likes ‘fake’ and ‘real’ lol toys. Also, she has older friends/relatives on the other side who are quite fake/real conscious.
The SIL can get quite funny, if I get say, a Disney product instead of a ‘Monster High’ doll. I just want it to be equitable.
But, yeah, she is a bright kid. We’re 2 books into the Chronicles of Narnia, she can name all the continents and oceans on the atlas and maybe about half a dozen countries, understands the differences between all of the Big Cats and can do basic sums. I have gently nudged this, but not trying to go overboard. I’m really proud of her.
Gifts aren’t always equitable. Your mentality is the damn problem. People have budgets and are entitled to stick to them. A four year old doesn’t need to be on YouTube for any amount of time FYI.
I don’t let my children watch YouTube. Those toy unboxing “shows” are incredibly sad and materialistic. Is this really the type of media you want your kid watching?
Christmas isn’t equitable. Life isn’t fair. If you want to complain to your SIL that you didn’t like what she got your kid, prepare to get no gifts next year.
Be gracious and thankful and quietly dispose of it next week.Good one JD. I’ll do what I want thanks. I appreciate that you don’t get the excitment aand knowledge that youtube can bring.
Wow you are right I’ve never used YouTube. You should do whatever you want, doesn’t make it a good idea.
YouTube is great for learning how to put on makeup or fix an air conditioner or watch old shows. For adults. That toy unboxing stuff isn’t educational or informative. It’s like crack for kids.
Yeah, we don’t allow YouTube use for our 5yo. I hate those toy-unboxing videos. They’re vapid and terrible and have no redeeming qualities. I might occasionally look up some kind of animal video to show her something cool (like a kangaroo joey in its mama’s pouch) but then it gets turned off. If we have screen time, it’s Netflix or Amazon kids shows; at least they’re somewhat educational or tell decent stories.
Anyway, LW, the only thing to do here is sincerely thank your SIL for the gift. As you would for ANY gift. Stick it in the closet until your kid forgets about it, then out it goes. Who gives a shit what she got for her own kids (and yes, it’s clear that you just don’t like her for whatever reason). Maybe your New Year’s resolution can be to cultivate a sense of gratitude for all of life’s blessings. If this is seriously your biggest problem during the holidays, you’re not going to get a lot of sympathy here.
None of us are entitled to gifts ever. Not even children. None of us are entitled to dictate to the giver how much they should spend or insist they buy the right brand.
You sil got your kid a gift, and got her something that aligns with her interest.
It would be so rude of you to confront your sister. You should let your daughter know her gift from her aunt is real and she should say thank you.
When I was a kid I was really into American girls, sometimes people would buy me off brand clothes that would fit 18 inch dolls. I felt miffed but my parents always made me say thank you and would’ve smacked me upside the head if I breathed a word about how the gift wasn’t right. You appreciate when people do for you, whatever form that comes in.
And frankly, my friends kind of thought it was cool I had unique clothes for my dolls nobody else had.
Also of course she spend more on her own children than she did on her niece. Did you spend as much on her children as you did LOL? Of course not.
It sounds like you have other issues with your SIL, so focus on that and don’t teach your 4 year old they can be rude about gifts.
