My male friend took advantage of me when I was drunk- is it my fault?
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AngeFebruary 22, 2019 at 4:37 pm #833406
Seriously OP just ignore what doesn’t serve you in this moment. The last thing you needed straight after this event is a bunch of people telling you what you did wrong. There’s enough of that out in society and you were looking for support in what you thought would have been a safe space. I’m sorry you didn’t get it. Usually we do much, much better dealing with women and I really don’t know why the ball was dropped this time.
I hope you get the support you need.
Nope. She just responded.
RoseLouise, please know that this wasn’t your fault. I’m glad you’re going to see a counselor. Cut your yourself some slack. Take care of yourself. Again, you did nothing wrong. There are many, many people, myself included, who let a night get away from them and drink a little too much. You were unlucky in that your friend assaulted you. EDT: Learn from this and move forward.
Sorry, @ange. That’s not the way I meant it. I’m in agreement with you and @TaraMonster. I’ll amend.
LisforLeslieFebruary 22, 2019 at 4:56 pm #833418RoseLouise – I truly hate that this happened to you. I hate that you are questioning your part in this. Let me again repeat: YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. Drinking too much is not an excuse, it’s not a reason, it’s not an invitation. He took advantage of your friendship and he admitted he would do it again.
He’s thisclose to being a full on rapist.
I am glad you are going to seek counseling and I hope you understand that it doesn’t matter what state you were in, you did not consent. You could not consent. You are completely and totally blameless.
February 22, 2019 at 5:05 pm #833419@RoseLouise, I just want to reiterate that this was not your fault. He made a choice to do what he did, and that is completely on him. A lot of us have been where you are, and we know what all the second-guessing feels like. You are doing the best thing you can do by seeing a counselor– I didn’t do that for many years, and I wish I’d done it way sooner. I’m sending you all the internet hugs.
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