Didn’t read all the comments but I will say this – I used to sleep with my pitbull every night but my boyfriend is a light sleeper and said he can’t sleep with the dog in the bed as he wakes up every time she moves. So now my dog sleeps in her bed in our bedroom – he wouldn’t have moved in without this arrangement and my dog had no problem with it. It took her like 3 nights to understand she doesn’t sleep up there anymore and is just fine with her new arrangement! Some nights she skips the bedroom although and sleeps on the couch. Seriously though – any guy that is telling you that you are being selfish isn’t someone to build a future with! And for the record my boyfriend and dog get along great, and my dog only jumps into the bed when there is a thunderstorm.

I love animals, I dream of the day I can own a pittie. But I greatly dislike sleeping with animals. It’s a sensory thing (I also don’t like being cuddled all night either). And quite frankly I don’t want animal hair on my sheets/blankets that I sleep in. For me it wouldn’t have gotten to this place with regards to the dog, but I have never had a SO who has not at least tried to compromise with the cuddling. That would make me feel like I was not allowed to be myself and that my needs weren’t taken into consideration. I do think he is being selfish, and him not being willing to compromise at all is a red flag. Lets be honest, of all the things you compromise on in a LTR, cuddling shouldn’t be the hardest. Good luck, and incase you need to hear it, your needs and wants are valid and you are not wrong for being upset.

I also moved in with (and married) the owner of a 150lb Great Dane! Pretty sure she shared the bed with my husband before I came around as well. He’d still happily have her on the bed every night since he’s a pretty good sleeper and doesn’t mind being crowded. But when we started dating, whenever I stayed over she would sleep on her bed (it’s a love seat), which was just an unspoken adjustment. If you want a partner to be happy to share your bed, there should be a standard amount of room.

Now the dog will cuddle on the bed with us in the evening while we’re reading or hanging out, but as soon as the lights go out she hops off to her bed. Personally, I think it’s a lot to expect a partner to share a Queen or smaller bed with a Great Dane all night. You can want someone to do it, but you’ve got to realize that’s an ask!