I’m a long time lurker and I rarely comment, but reading this thread just blew my mind. So here’s my two cents.

I’ve never met Wendy personally, but with all the threads and letters that I’ve read, I can tell you with upmost confidence that her advice is spot on 99.9 percent of the time. Is she always right on her advice? In a nutshell, no. But her advice is her opinion. Have others disagreed with her? Yes, many many times. Has she ever intentionally moderated those who disagree with her? No, because everyone has their own opinion and she respects that.

It is also my opinion that if and when a husband and wife have separate phones, each should have the respect of privacy. You never know what could be on someone else’s phone. There could be sexts, there could be pics, there could be plans for a surprise party for your next birthday. Once you open up your spouse’s phone and start looking through it, there’s no going back and that potential surprise party could be ruined.