What exactly is wrong about this story from my childhood?
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I for some reason like Bobs Burgers. My husband hates it and I really couldn’t even tell you why I like it. The characters just crack me up. For the most part I am an A&E, Science Channel, Nat Geo person. I could watch Forensic Files all day, and I have! Give me a true crime binge any day, which seems like it will happen since we are basically snowed in today.
I like Family Guy, my dad loved it. I fully admit that sometimes my humor is that of a 12 year old. One of my most professional accomplishments was not guffawing when I had to write emails or refer people to a coworker whose last name was “Doody.”
Heh, doody.
Family guy is what it is, I guess (never really seen it) but the more problematic sex-themed memes this kid has public on his account along with babysitting ads aren’t FG memes, just to clarify. The FG ones are mainly like potty humor, poop & pee.
I do think male potential babysitters are probably held to a different standard than female potential babysitters, so that’s a concern, but honestly the bigger issue is all the personal identifying info Hunter gave out on this thread. He’s a kid himself, and there are weirdos.
I agree with Kate on needing to be a bit more conservative with things as a male babysitter. Frankly, no I wouldn’t hire a male, call it discrimination if you want but I can discriminate any which way I chose when it comes to someone alone with my children. For whatever reason I just wouldn’t feel comfortable with it. I really can’t even say why, although your ranting and poor judgement on what you post is a good example of why.
I also wouldn’t hire someone who cursed, had a criminal record, smoked, had BO, annoyed me, gave me a weird vibe, the list goes on. When it comes to your children’s well being and safety you can make any decision you want for any reason you want. So yes, in a field where you are less likely to be hired just for being male, you really need to come across as pretty much perfect.
Also, stop using social media if you don’t even know what it means to lock it down. Those are called privacy settings, pretty simple. No one can see anything other than my name and a picture the size of a dime unless I allow it. Kids in general should have locked down profiles, and I think FB should have it as an automatic setting if you are under 18 as it is. Someone just got into me that “kids don’t do stupid things online like parents think”. Ya ok, sure. That’s why my son is internet banned currently because he can’t manage to stop infringing copyright laws by posting crap he finds on some forum. That’s why kids are talking to 50 year old predators and are sure they are the love of their life from their fake pics. All the things you post remain public and stupid crap WILL impact you getting a babysitting job now, as well as professional jobs in the future. Granted some slack is given for things when you are young and stupid but if I have two resumes and one is a nice clean social media presence and the other is some nutty kid posting videos of his cursing and showing concerning levels of anger, guess which one I am hiring?
We never had male babysitters when I was a kid. My parents worked at a college when we were really little, and some guy student kept asking if he could babysit us. He literally said, “I won’t do nothing weird to ‘em.” My mom was like, no thanks, and hired a female student. When I was around 7, our regular babysitter couldn’t make it and sent her brother instead. He actually touched me inappropriately, as f’d up as that is. I am sure a guy could be a good sitter, and a girl could be a bad one, it’s just… you think of girls as more mature and responsible at that age, and less likely to do something weird to your kid. I’m sorry, I’m biased.
Yeah, I loudly asked him what he was doing and told him to knock it off, but it makes me wonder if his sisters were okay, or if he tried that with anyone else. I can’t remember if I told my parents, probably not.
I did HATE babysitting boys. They were always trying to wrestle and jump all over me to the point of physically hurting me or being super needy and demanding. I remember one little boy would find any chance to “accidentally” touch my chest. He told him mom I was mean and he didn’t want me babysitting for him anymore because I wouldn’t let him feel me up, good lord. Was in no way upset about not being invited back to that shit show. My fear of having a boy still exists from those horrors. I keep begging my husband for a girl, not as though he can control that, ha. We are however choosing our days and positions for better girl chances though.
@JD- We talked about “trying” for a girl for our second. We even looked into how much it cost to have sperm separated out. I read a little about the Shettle method. In the end, I felt weirded out by the idea of actively trying to prevent a boy. Our other child was just about two when we decided to “pull the trigger” so to speak, and I loved him so much it felt weird to actively avoid having another one even though we both knew two would likely be our ABSOLUTE max. There is something appealing about having the experience of raising a child of a different gender. As it turned out my second was far more feminine and may actually be a girl. She is as unique and remarkable as her brother and is a beautiful person inside and out.
