What exactly is wrong about this story from my childhood?
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WTH do I need counseling for? How is it unrealistic for me to help out someone who’s getting picked on. Also, I think being chivalrous is hammah. I learned growing up to never lay hand on girl and to always help girls out when they’re in trouble, which is what I did.
Even if it were true, Hunter, I would advise you to just stop talking about it at this point. You’re not a little kid anymore. Your first post indicated this is a story you tell, present tense, to various people on various occasions. It’s not being received well. People aren’t into it. Instead of trying to change people’s minds, you can just leave it in the past, or in your mind, or wherever it came from. There are other, more age-appropriate ways you can make the point that bullying is wrong.
Schools do promote a lot of discussion about bullying. That isn’t farfetched. Also, there are schools that have bell work. My son’s elementary school did that.
What sounds fake about the entire thing is the dialogue. So if this incident actually happened you exaggerated the dialogue until it sounded fake.
If you hadn’t exaggerated maybe it would have been much better received. Instead you come out sounding as bad as the bully. You make it sound like you slammed him with the ball, what third grader has such good aim at that age that they land the ball twice? Or were you right up beside him and sort of tossed it? Why hit him in the face? So you exaggerated and everyone called you on it. In the future just be honest and factual. People probably don’t mind one kid sticking up for another but they do mind fake. They didn’t believe you so they tore you apart and said you did the wrong thing. In the moment, without time to reflect, they knew they didn’t like your story without really thinking about why they didn’t like it. Instead of having a kid helping another kid you had a knight swooping in to save a damsel in distress. Girls don’t like to be portrayed as damsels in distress. They would like to be seen as capable people. Also, you called yourself a hero. That is a huge no no. Never brag. People despise bragging.
Moral of the story. Tell the story as it really happened, no exaggerations. Don’t call yourself a hero. If you are a hero other people will say so. No need for you to tell the world.
Because you’re obsessed with this story. Clearly. You don’t seem to understand this story is offputting and people don’t like it or see you as a hero. Smashing a ball in a kid’s face isn’t really a heroic act. And you can recount other memories of this bully.
Instead of arguing with strangers online, you could have a conversation with a professional who works at your school. You can talk it over with them. Maybe you can come up with heroic deeds you could do now and in the future.
“Also, there are schools that have bell work. My son’s elementary school did that.”
That was exactly my point, it doesn’t sound like a HS thing, but an elementary school thing.
We were standing close to each other the first throw. The second time I held onto the ball and swung at his face. I did get props for this on the playground when it happened. Maybe it made me a little over my head IDK.
You know memories are subjective, right?
Regardless, it happened eight years and no one likes this particular bragging fairytale you half made up. It’s not doing anything good for you, so let it go.
Ah but you were 17 before now you’re 16. Hard to keep things straight when you lie. Who the fuck cares or remembers 3rd grade. You act like a 8 year old still not 16 or 17 or whatever the lie is.
Still ignoring when I point out that said it was exaggerated then said it was all true. Truth isn’t your strong point.
Also learn what over your head means. You used it wrong.
I think it depends on whether they still do a homeroom. Homeroom is about 10 minutes and then the kids go on to their first class of the day. Our high school dropped the homeroom concept but they were doing it when my son was there. I don’t know what they did between bells but it is possible they did bell work in high school. It tends to be busy work to keep the kids occupied while the teacher does attendance and announcements are done and handouts are distributed. My high school never had homeroom and I have to say the concept seemed pretty archaic to me when I found out my son had it.
I would think they’d do things related to the subject. Or finish their homework or something. Also, the original post said “whenever I tell it to people,” not “when I read it aloud in class.” Regardless, the story is bogus.
In the future just be matter of fact. This is what happened. No embellishments. No bragging. Skip the praise you received. If you are supposed to tell about what you did in a bullying situation just cover the actual bullying and what you did. All the rest sounds like you bragging.
Reframe the concept that you should help girls to you should help people when you see they need help. I expect my daughter to help people every bit as much as I expect my son to help people. Either gender can and should help either gender.
I never said I was 17. Someone else thought I was 17-18 and that I was 12th grade earlier in this topic. I’ve always maintained that I am 16 and in 11th grade. Also, the writing thing in English is how I drew back to this story and afterwards I told more people, which is where the whole “whenever I tell people” thing came from.
