What exactly is wrong about this story from my childhood?
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January 20, 2019 at 4:08 pm #816491
You should really stop caring what people think about you. You can’t control how others perceive you. Who cares if a bunch of strangers on the internet don’t believe your admittedly embellished story? It doesn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter.
LucidityJanuary 20, 2019 at 4:19 pm #816494Ok, I’ll make the assumption this story is true.
Aside from the sexist verbiage of this story, the reason people are reacting negatively and making you feel like they view you as the villain of this story is because you used physical violence. Ideally, you would have called the bully out verbally, or gone to get an authority figure. Physical violence escalates a situation. When you address a bullying incident the goal is to de-escalate. You wouldn’t physically intervene unless someone was at risk of serious physical harm and you had already tried all other available options. Obviously the bully was in the wrong, but so were you.
If your experience being bullied affected you so much that your immediate response was/is to react with physical violence (or to retroactively fantasize about having physically harmed that person), then therapy might be helpful in getting past your anger and resentment over the way this person treated you and others.
ronJanuary 20, 2019 at 4:20 pm #816495Hunter —
Many, many reasons why your story doesn’t make sense:
1. A group of older kids is playing baseball, but when you walk up to them, they just agree to give you the baseball and let you walk away with it to the other side of the playground, leaving them to do what? Just stand around looking at each other? Why would they loan you the ball?2. The girl was being bullied by a GROUP of boys, including one who had bullied you, but the rest of the group just stood there and let you throw the ball at his ass and then let you pick up the ball, and then let you hit him in the face with the baseball, and then just let you walk over and have a discussion with the girl they had picked on. That’s not how groups of bullies behave.
3. Your actions, which lead bully somehow viewed as you defeating him in a fair fight, left you alone after that. At the very least he’d come after you and whip or ass in a fair fight. At worst he and his whole little gang would pound you. They’d catch you when you weren’t armed with a baseball.
4. The girl who scraped arm went to nurse, but the kid you hit square in the face with a hardball didn’t. The principal never wanted to speak to you about this… because nobody else saw you hit a kid in the face with a baseball.
5. The bully had been tamed and one and all proclaimed you a hero.
Nope, just doesn’t hang together at all. It’s not at all how real life works.
HunterJanuary 20, 2019 at 4:25 pm #816497https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aA3-oPcgzbQ&feature=youtu.be
This is to prove my age. Also, the gang of punks did want to jump me, but because the girl was already crying they didn’t want to attract any more attention. The two 6th graders didn’t mind lending their ball, I only had it for like a minute.
Ele4phantJanuary 20, 2019 at 4:25 pm #816498You said yourself you added some exaggerated some details. Those details didn’t pass the smell test, and when some of what you say isn’t credible, people will be skeptical of everything else you say.
If you want to be taken seriously, tell a credible story.
This is on you, not the audience.
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